How do you feel about your SO going out with opposite sex friends without you?

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To make a long story short my SO wants to go out with his female coworkers without me. He has a past history of flirting with them and even cheating with them. I'm not trying to control him, but it hurts my feelings. I know I get jealous but I can't help it. I told him that I don't mind if he goes out, but I want to go. His excuse for not letting me go is that I will get mad when he talks to his female friends. He constantly tells me I'm the only one who has problems with this and I'm nuts and I need to seek help.

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He has a history of cheating, and now he is manipulating you by telling you that you're the only one who acts this way and are nuts ... These are serious red flags.

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Given his history, you're right to be upset. He's being very dismissive of your feelings.

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I don't care if my husband hangs out with his coworkers without me. In fact him and the HR girls just went to get brunch for his birthday! I trust my husband completely. It sounds like your husband has given you reasons to be uncomfortable. I don't think your issue lies in him hanging around women I think the issue is that your husband is a cheater.

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Doesn't bother me but if he had cheated in the past I'd be more worried and controlling so your situation is a bit different. Good luck!

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It doesn't bother me (my husband is a banker, and the only man in the retail side with about 10-15 female coworkers). I'm friends with most of them because we all hang out together, but even if I weren't it still wouldn't bother me. Although, if there was a definite history of him flirting or cheating with them, that would be a different story.

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I would be fine with it with my husband because I trust him completely. If there were a history of him cheating,  however,  no way would I be ok with it. Good luck.

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Cheating doesn't always mean that person doesn't love you. But it sounds to me hay he's a douche bag. He cheated on you and now because you have trust issues because of it he's playing the victim and you the bad guy. I realize divorce isn't for everyone, but I think it may be time to think about it.

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Sounds like you already know the answer...

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Actions speak louder than words to me.  He has a history with it and he shouldn't be telling you anything - you didn't conjure those feelings out of nowhere.  They are based on what he's done to you before and they will dissipate over time but he needs to back off trying to hang out with them for now until you feel comfortable.  Allll I'm my humble opinion!

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My husband wouldn't. And I wouldn't go out with my male co workers simply because it would make him uncomfortable.

How do you feel about your SO going out with opposite sex friends without you?

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