Can I forgive him?

Question

My husband tried it on with one of my best friends and I can't get past it...

We were out on a night out that was pretty drunk and messy but we left and went home together.

I then saw messages on his phone to her that basically went like this:

Friend : come to mine, answer your phone

Husband: I can't Emma is here!!! I'm outside yours, too late gone

Now my friend had pulled a bloke that night and was actually asking us all to go back to hers not just him!!
When I saw it I couldn't work it out and left it for months. Recently however it came out in an argument and he actually thought she was asking him to go with her and the worst part is he would have probably gone. She was my f*cking bridemsaid!! As if she would have gone near him anyway!

Because the time has now past I feel conflicted as I've indirectly forgiven him but I can't stop thinking about it and it's making me feel bad towards my friend who didn't do anything wrong at all!!

Ahhh help me get my head around this?? What should I do girls ??

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THANK YOU KELLY AND WILDFLOWER!!!!!!!! I haven't been able to speak about this with anyone at all and getting it off my chest has made a HUGE difference - thank you so much xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Honey, if you're still upset you haven't forgiven him.  Forgiveness means you're over it and you're not.

I don't blame you one bit, I'd be mad too.  You need to talk to him about it.  If it came out in a fight that's just painful and doesn't resolve the issue.  Try to have a calm reasonable talk about how it makes you feel so you really can forgive, or move on.

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I know how you feel Sweetie, keep your head up. You're the only one here that did nothing wrong. They both knew you were drunk and still had the conversation is the thing.  My situation was, my friend was at my house drinking, she had not had very much so there was no way she could be as sick as she was pretending to be. She had maybe 3 shots and one very lightly mixed drink, I was the one pretty much forced to take body shots off of her while my husband took pictures, and I got to hear his comments about her tiny little body (i was much larger then), I caught my husband rushing out of the kitchen twice away from her, at times I had to go to the bathroom & them snuggling on the couch once. Well she pretended to be real sick in the bathroom (no vomiting though) my husband carried her to her car, drove her home, laid her in bed, took her shoes off, let her dog out ( this is what I hear) and walked home. However, I'm pissed, he's never done that for me, he'd let me lay on the floor with my shoes on. They both swear nothing happened, but then I see they'd been texting each other. They still swear it's nothing, but no one will let me see the texts, they delete them! My friend still makes little comments, though she denies, my husband flat out denies.. I know, but can't prove! Very painful!  I feel for you girl!!!!

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But why she texted to your husband phone not yours?

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