Anyone else have pain in the butt in-laws?

Lisa • Married my husband in August. Got pregnant by October! Miscarried in November and my husband deployed in February. Just trying to be 100% ready when he gets back.
My in-laws and i have never gotten along or it all feels really fake. I feel like dealing with them is harder than the deployment...actually they are harder to deal with. I'm torn between trying to make an effort with them(when i doubt it will do any good) or just let them come to me.