I wish i wish i could really know

I read on here that a lot of women are in a abusive relationship where they bf/so calls them bad names. Then I read women posts where their bf/so is so loving, sweet the relationship is abusive free.....its possible, but I'm out in public and I'm sitting here listening to a guy on the phone bashing his girl calling her all kind of names and seem like she steady tryna be cool cause he steady saying he about to hang up on her, but yet still talking and calling her names. I'm thinking plenty of relationships go threw this problem and I know its terrible when you have kids by the abuser. I bet 1 out of every 3 women lie a out their relationship or like to overlook the abuse. I'm just sitting here looking at this ugly mf curse her out like that and probably don't even have a job. I bet her trying to keep cool is because they have kids together. Me n my SO get into it, but I was the abuser at first and I still feel bad because I think that was the beginning of ruining our relationship. But in the end I wanna know do more women go threw this emotional abuse because physical abuse is another thing you can't hide that. Lol your SO gotta beenve called you ugly or fat or a b**** before be for real.