We both work full time. Sometimes I only work 30 hours, but that's retail. Our entire marriage I have always struggled to get him to pick up after himself, but now that I'm pregnant we fight about it constantly. Here's a list of things he does/doesn't so:

1. Leaves his hair when he shave

2. Leaves the toilets dirty after he's "bombed" them

3. Refuses to throw anything away, and I mean anything. Chip bags, used kiereg pods, tea bags, any wrapper to anything he eats or unwraps ever.

4. Leaves his dishes absolutely anywhere, covered in food

5. Leaves his clothes everywhere in the house. Bathroom, front room, couch, kitchen, you name it

6. Throws all his trash into the back seat of the car and never picks it up, even when I ask over and over. I have to.

7. Never picks up the house unless we fight about it.

8. Has two chores in the whole house, laundry once a week and vacuuming once a week. That's it and he rarely does them ever. When he DOES do laundry it's mostly his and he leaves me without any clean clothes, especially socks and underwear.

9. Refuses to do the dishes. I hosted thanksgiving and cooked the entire meal and he said not to worry, he has the dishes.... it's December 9th and the dishes are still stacked next to the sink... they've been there for two weeks and now I have to do them before they start to mold.

He's an amazing man but he's such a slob! I'm JUST stopping throwing up every morning and on top of my full time job I come home energy less to a messy house and have to clean before I even get to sit down and he constantly comes home lately complaining how tired he is from his job and I really just want to shout "screw you!" Because it's so dang unfair. We got in a fight the other day and he brought up that I'd been leaving my plate on the coffee table and my uniform next to the couch and said I was being lazy!! I'm honestly at my wits end l.

If I ask him nicely he ignores me and doesn't do it or says he will and doesnt.

If I snap at him he goes off about how I'm always yelling at him and still doesn't do it. Or goes into a cleaning rampage muttering to himself how mad he is and how I'm always snapping at him and how he's getting tired of this.

What do I even do st this point?