My husband and I are TTC and I really want to be a SAHM, but we just can't make that work financially. I am so afraid of being entirely useless to baby and hubby if I have to work 40-45 hours a week at my high-stress job  on top of being up with baby all night. I do not do all the great sleep deprived now without kids, I have no idea how I will balance work and baby without feeling I'm not being the best I can be for baby. Especially when it breaks down to being gone a minimum of 11 hours a day between work and travel time. Help! Tips? Encouragement?