Struggling early on

I have always been overweight. I started my period at age 11 and shortly thereafter was diagnosed with PCOS. When I was diagnosed my doctor put me on birth control, glucophage and Aldactone. I have been on that same regime for 14 years. My periods were always consistent but very heavy and I clotted horribly. Last July I had to stop my birth control because the doctor seemed to think my body was starting to reject it or react to it. I started having severe leg and feet swelling and they even sent me for an echo and to see a cardiologist because they thought I was in congestive heart failure. I had finally just had enough and was miserable so I stopped them. At first conceiving wasn't really at the forefront. My first cycle without the pills was August 2015. Since then I had had consistent 27-28 cycles, would bleed for 4-5 days with severe cramping, back pain and nausea. I guess you could say my husband and I have been officially trying since my September cycle. September and October I used opk's and supposedly I ovulated and I BD'ed every other day during my fertile window. I had a lot of extra stress in December. I didn't check ovulation last month but went by glow for my fertile window and once again BD'ed every other day. Well, my lovely 27-28 seemingly normal cycle has now reached day 33. Negative after negative pregnancy test. Negative blood test. I had a vaginal ultrasound done yesterday and I didn't have any cysts but my right ovary had numerous follicles consistent with me have ovulated. A part of me was so hoping this was the month. My BFP was why I was late. I had so many tale tale symptoms, But no. On top of my PCOS problems, my husband had a vasectomy in 09 and a reversal in 2012 but the VA would never pay for follow up care. I just already feel like I'm losing the battle. The doctor said if my period doesn't show by next week, we will do 10 days of birth control then stop so I will bleed, then try clomid. She also suggested a vitamin and cough syrup. And we are still fighting with the va to get my husband checked. I know there are women who have tried for years unsuccessfully and please don't think because I'm whining about trying for mere months that I'm being insensitive or cruel. I just need to vent and most definitely applaud all of you afor being strong and determined. I hope I can suck it up and be the same way because I know we most definitely have a long road ahead of us.