Hormones or am I being stupid?

Question

So I had my baby shower this weekend and my husbands friends came. My husband was in charge of taking photos but he didn't take any of me...nor of me and him together....he also barely took pictures of both family. (FYI he is big on taking nice photos, at all family gatherings he is the photographer. He and his friends drank a little during the baby shower and then afterwards they drank more. He took tons of photos of them drinking and being silly. I was mangling with friends and family so I didn't look at the camera till mid-night...that's when I noticed I was not in any of the photos nor did he get any photos of us together. I also have been feeling like he is neglecting me...he used to tell me I'm beautiful or pretty all the time but since I've been pregnant he hasn't given me any sort of compliments about anything period. He just complains about how the house is messy or I should do the laundry or pay my bills on time. FYI our house is never messy because he is a clean freak and I'm not very messy. But he still complains of it being messy. So I don't understand why he is acting that way. 
Also during his Christmas party at work in his pictures he took there was a girl in almost every shot. I asked him about it and he said she has a boy friend and that they are just coworkers. But that was the same girl he went hiking with before we started dating. Anyways he's reassured me that he loves me and blah blah blah but I just hate feeling alone, neglected or like he doesn't know that  he is making me feel this way. I've talked to him twice about my feelings but he has just said he loves me and that we'll talk about my feelings when he gets off work...but we've yet to talk about how I've been feeling.

So sorry for the long rant. I can't talk to my friends or family. Because I don't want them thinking horrible about my husband.

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I don't know if its hormones....but girl I'd be upset too about the shower pics. you sound just like me right now. I usually let things like that roll and don't get too worked up but right now if I hear my hubby had a female customer in his office at work I'm like .....excuse me what's her name,where's she from and I will find her ? Lol

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You're not being silly about this, I would be upset too. The baby shower is meant for mom (and dad) to be, therefore there should be picture to capture you two in some way. I would ask around and see if anyone else got some pictures for memories, but not tell them why of course. I'd also talk to him. Communication is everything. Go on a date night and calmly discuss that you've been feeling neglected, that you're not sure if it's because there's panic mode with the baby coming or if there's something else going on. Don't point fingers or suggest any accusations, just have an open and understanding dialogue. As for the girl, don't make a big deal out of her or point her out more than necessary. It is up for discussion though if you continue to have the feeling that something is going on. Good luck! I hope you two can talk it out and move past the bump in the road. ::hugs::

Hormones or am I being stupid?

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