Hurray! You're a Mom, Now What?

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Being a new Mom is the most exciting and rewarding experience of your life. Holding that precious bundle of joy is both awe inspiring and terrifying. As the days turn into weeks and the sleep deprivation kicks in – you might start to wonder; “Is this it? Cleaning up vomit and changing dirty diapers all day? Not being able to take a shower because of this irrational fear that something bad is going to happen to the baby while you’re in there? Waking up at all hours of the night (even when the baby is sleeping) just to make sure they are breathing?”

Believe me when I tell you; you’re not losing your mind. You’re in what I like to call “New Mommy Survival Mode”. It’s an intense experience, but there are a few things that I’m going to share with you to help you keep your sanity.

1. Let things go– We all think that we have to be perfect. Perfect mom, perfect wife, perfect homemaker, perfect employee, etc. but when you have a newborn, spit up is definitely going to happen! Things are going to fall by the wayside. Babies take up an unbelievable amount of time and it’s going to take time to adjust to everything and that’s fine. So what if there’s a pile of clothes that need folding or dirty dishes in the sink, know that you will get the hang of it all and things will get done eventually.

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I'm not jumping down any ones throat. I would never say that someone should breast feed vs formula feed. Regardless of what I choose to do. I would never put a feeling of guilt on another mom by even expressing my opinion towards one way or the other. I know too many
People who has suffered because other moms have said what they should or shouldn't do. The baby needs food. Period. Saying you should "breastfeed if you can" is another way of saying " and if you choose not to you're being selfish" neither of which is true. Back in the day "breast wasn't best" and in other cultures it's a sign of wealth if you choose to formula feed. To each his own. Unless you starve your kid, you're doing great.

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I'm confused about the comments... Why do the not relate to this article?

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The rest of the article is gone. The domain is up for sale.

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Dear article there are some fallacies. Leaving dirty dishes in the sink they get stinky. And as for help im not sure if other moms had/have this issue. I got offered help watching the babies and that's it and only if they could take the babies when and we're they wanted not when I needed not once did i get offered help with chores around the house even as my vag healed. All they did was complain about how dirty house was that I don't dress them warm enough and im neglecting them and cps should be called and yet wanted to hold.and be around my babies. Needless to say they don't get to be with the babies.

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It is reassuring to know I'm not crazy or dis functional because I haven't gotten to the laundry yet.  Thanks 👍🏽

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Now that I am a first new month with a 2 1/2 mont old. I keep the house even cleaner then before. Lol.  
Key. Wash right away what you use so nothing will pile up. But I only have one baby, so I think things are dif. If there are more then one kid in the picture.

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how about how to adjust your social life? I've basically been a shut-in since my LO was born almost 3 months ago. I've only seen my friends a few times bc leaving the house is hard (LO hates car rides and is miserable when out of the house). how do I tell my friends that I'm still their friend and in time I'll be able to join them for a night out but that can't happen just yet. I'm the only one with a baby, so I don't think any of them really get it.

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These articles all have an uplifting tone about how we should "leave the dirty dishes in the sink and the dirty clothes in the basket" but they never address the fact that we need clean dishes to eat and clean clothes to go out and do things. Like, how am I supposed to "let things go" when I literally can't eat if I don't clean the dishes? Not everyone has the money to eat takeaway all the time, nor the quantity of friends and relatives to always have someone else do it for you. Useless piece of advice.

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Not only do I wake up in the middle of the night to see my baby is still breathing, but I do that to my boys too they're 6 & 8. Lol and I formula feed my baby and she still wakes up every 4 hours and I'm the only one that takes care of her, probably because my husband works graveyard. And I do have a pile of dishes and a pile of dirty laundry. When I get to doing housework I'm very tired at the end and I fall asleep at the time I put my boys to sleep, 8pm.

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So true.  A few tricks I learned: 1.  Bath your child then nurse he will aleep longer.  So immediatly bath after he goes to sleep.  Just make sure to burp him well so it doesn't wake him crying.  2.  Also bring the bed in front of your bathroom so u can take a peek if made a noise.  lol  3.  u can shower your body first, dry, put cream and dress.  See if the coast is clear to continue then wash  ur hair seperatly.  This way if the babt screams murder all of a sudden you can put the towel on ur head fast and go out to him.  and come back t finish ur hair when u can.

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