Why is it so hard NOT to get emotionally involved?!

Question

So I've known this guy for like 10 years. Apparently we've always been attracted to each other but never said anything til a month ago. We really like what's going on but we KNOW that it's never gonna work out to be more than what it is because our lifestyles are very different. We've had sex like 3 times already and I was the one to say "no feelings" to which he replied "I can't promise not to add feelings because you can't control that". But I can totally see myself emotionally involved already!!! I'm like an emotional masochist! How do I keep my feet on the ground and just enjoy this?! Do I back out?! ANY EXPERIENCE YOU CAN SHARE?!

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I'm going through this too! I'm so glad I'm not the only one. My best friend Noah has recently admitted his feelings towards me but..... I'm in another relationship that I've been in for a year now.😓 I'm getting really stressed out because the boyfriend I have lived with me for a short Time of about 7 months or so and I a person to get very emotionally attached to the men I'm involved with especially if we have been intimate. But I'm also attached to Noah because he's my best friend! I haven't been able to decide what to do at all. I'm an emotional mess as well.

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I always get emotionally involved no matter what. So I had this experience where I was dating a guy and we had sex like 3 times, and I was kinda like hoping he was gonna tell me to date but he said he didn't wanna get emotionally involved with me 'cause he was gonna move to LA in 5 months so I was like oh man.. We tried to be friends but it didn't work we always ended up kissing or having sex, so he was doing his part of not getting emotionally involved with me very good, but I didn't :( I fell in love with him.. So I had to move on, cause I knew that he didn't want anything with me and I couldn't stay that way cause I always felt like I wanted more. Honestly this happened 4 months ago   And I still dream every night with him, which sucks, but I know I made the right decision.

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I can tell you that there is no way to keep the emotions out!! Lol my SO and I have been together for just over a year, but have known each other for about a year and a half. When we met were just friends, and we became really close friends very quickly. We had the whole chummy, football, pizza, and beer thing going on lol we considered each other friendzoned, but decided to have sex cuz hey we both have needs right?! Lol well after about a month of that we both fell for each other really hard, and what used to be that chummy platonic friendship turned into hot steamy emotional relationship! We then started dating and have now been together for over a year as I said. We plan on getting married within the next year also lol so basically what I'm trying to say is that it does not matter how long you've known someone or the differences between you. My SO was a college party boy, who never committed to anything, and I was the exact opposite. Don't be afraid to try something new😉

Why is it so hard NOT to get emotionally involved?!

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