I can't do everything- Mom guilt
I'm a working mom with a five year old on the ASD spectrum and two teenage stepdaughters. My SO and I are both teachers, so we do extra things for money. We have to because we live in South Florida and it is very expensive to live. I tutor twice a week after work for an hour after work. He works basically every night as remodeling kitchens/bathrooms and what not, or coaching job. As a teacher I have to work a ton of hours after contract time. His extra hours mean that he is really unable to help me run the house.
The biggest problem is that our son needs a lot of extra time with speech and other developmental areas. Since he isn't able to help I (due to the second job) I have the job of cookin, running errands, laundry, and cleaning without help. By the time this is done there is not enough time to give my son the extra time he needs. My SO want me to do all the same things that a stay at home mom would do along with bringing home a paycheck. I'm so torn because I don't feel like I have enough time to do anything right. When I spend more time as a mom my job performance goes way down. More at work and my son's delays and the house suffer. My SO has been giving me a LOT of guilt over this lately. Comments like "Do you want him to end up in a home?" Of course not. What mother would.
If I go to part time as a teacher my income would drop low enough that my son would qualify for disability and extra medical help. I'm having a hard time with this decision because it could really affect my career and I know that it could look like we are depending on welfare. I went to college to be independent and help others and never thought I would be in this position.
Any advice? Have you been there? Know how this works? Disabled child? Mom guilt?
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