Masturbatiom before sex

So Im still a virgin :/ (with guys tho, I have masturbated many times). And I want to try different things besides grinding on a pillow ya kno (but im still on the fence about sticking things up my vagina which is weird but anyways...) ALSO LIVING WITH MY PARENTS STILL (so it would be a bit akward for them to find a vibrator in my room, even though Im technically an adult).