Moving!

Here's a little background to help with my questions.

So currently live in NYC and I'm due May 6. My mother move to Seattle early last year. Now my MIL & FIL aren't a support system and have made it very clear they aren't going to babysit because "they aren't raising another kid." Even though I never asked them to nor would I ever want them to because they are both irresponsible and didn't even raise my husband. They just assumed we would want their help which we don't. My FIL is in and out of jail a felony doesn't take care of any of six children and constantly going to jail for failed payment of child support and the biggest pot head I know. My MIL is a drunk and partier actually got arrest last summer for DUI and got her license and car taken away. We havent heard from his parents our whole pregnancy only when they need money. So why they thought I wanted them to take care of my child is beyond me. Even my husband grandma made this same remark when we haven't even heard from her all pregnancy and when we do see her she's drunk. Not to mention she didn't even attend our wedding and this is her only grandchild. My family on the other hand are super hands want to help anyway they can are responsible adults and such amazing people. My mother really spent her time raising us and being as involved as she could. She's my best friend. She's been begging me to move to seattle since we told her I was pregnant. Though my siblings are great they are all married with kids and super busy so I know they will help when they can but not as often as my mother. So hubby finally got an opportunity to transfer to Seattle from his job. We leave more than likely end of May and baby is due may 6. I already know my MIL and FIL are going to feel a type of way and IDC. But I was wondering how to help my husband tell his family? I know its difficult because he does wish he was closer to them but this was our best option. For overall child care and financial. Also idk if its selfish but I'm so happy to be far from his family. I already smelled drama and trouble once the baby is here. They never being involved but plastering baby all over social media like grandparents of the year. Which is one reason we decided not to put baby picture on social media and not allow anyone else to as well. Am I terrible for being so happy about being far away from them? I know he's going to be sad to leave them even though they aren't existent anyways. Am I terrible wife?