Am I allowed to be mad?

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So my so mum takes my clothes when I'm over and washes them without asking me. While my so was doing some driving practise with his dad and me in the car she took my clothes out of my bag and washed them. Didn't tell me either or ask. I cleaned them the day prior and hadn't even worn them. Now I'm going to a party and my outfit is at their house still because she took it and washed it.

I get it's nice and all but I wasn't even told or asked. I didn't think to check my bag since I left it all in there.

I'm too far away to turn back and get the clothes and I won't get them until next weekend.

Am I allowed to be mad at her for taking them and not even letting me know, or should I just be grateful?

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Girl she washed your clothes. Double washed them at that. Stop complaing

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Just be grateful. 🙄

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You Mom was trying to do something nice for you and you should like an ungrateful child. Probably if the clothes had been folded and places neatly in the bag, perhaps she would've known you weren't carrying around a bag full of dirty clothes.

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I'm EXTREMELY picky on my clothes. I don't let people borrow try on touch my clothes period.

I have a certain way of washing my stuff I paid good money for my things and don't want them ruined.

If you are like me then I would say talk to her about it or if you don't mind your clothes being washed a certain way then be grateful

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Little bit of column A, little bit of column B, in my opinion. You're acknowledging that its a nice thing of her to do, which it is. But it has inconvenienced you since you picked out that outfit specifically for this party, so I think you can be a little annoyed. I'd say talk to her without anger and explain where you're coming from.

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Yes, you are allowed to be mad.
Even when someone is doing something they perceive to be helpful or nice, when the choice is taken away from you, you have every right to be upset. 
She took your stuff without asking, or letting you know; you wanted that stuff, and now you dont have it because of that.
It doesn't matter what she did with it, she should have at least let you know.

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Dude I wish someone still did my laundry for me, I think you're kinda bratty for wanting to be mad honestly

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Allowed? You can feel what you feel. But it's ridiculous to be mad. She washed your clothes. She went out of the way to go was another grown woman's clothes. And you're... Mad? I don't get it.

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I really don't understand all the people saying you should be grateful. 
I think it's disrespectful and an invasion of privacy to go through someone's bag without asking. My mum or MIL would never do that to me, just because she was trying to do something nice doesn't mean it's ok.
And why not just tell you? Why let you leave and not mention that she had taken your clothes and washed them?
I would just tell her that you really appreciate the gesture, but it's really not needed.

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You can be mad whenever you want to be. You are entitled to your own emotions.

However, I think the energy you spent typing this post could've been spent just having a respectful convo with your mom. I'm sure she meant well and probably didn't realize the inconvenience it caused.

Am I allowed to be mad?

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