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Girl she washed your clothes. Double washed them at that. Stop complaing
Am I allowed to be mad?
So my so mum takes my clothes when I'm over and washes them without asking me. While my so was doing some driving practise with his dad and me in the car she took my clothes out of my bag and washed them. Didn't tell me either or ask. I cleaned them the day prior and hadn't even worn them. Now I'm going to a party and my outfit is at their house still because she took it and washed it.
I get it's nice and all but I wasn't even told or asked. I didn't think to check my bag since I left it all in there.
I'm too far away to turn back and get the clothes and I won't get them until next weekend.
Am I allowed to be mad at her for taking them and not even letting me know, or should I just be grateful?
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N�
I have listened to everyone and took their advise but if I see they didn't understand me properly I correct it
N�
Oh my god. I said I wasn't angry she did it. I was angry I wasn't told. That's not complaining. That's her being rude.
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Just call her and tell her that you appreciate the effort but to let you know next time she moves your things. The whole waiting a week thing is dumb. Im sure you have more clothes to wear
You Mom was trying to do something nice for you and you should like an ungrateful child. Probably if the clothes had been folded and places neatly in the bag, perhaps she would've known you weren't carrying around a bag full of dirty clothes.
Li
Omg! You're a 16 year old girl! Totally explains why I'm getting "ungrateful child" from your post. I can't believe I've wasted my time. I gotta see what the heck is going on with my age filter.
Li
you, I doubt washing your clothes would've been the method she'd use. So it doesn't make sense. All you want is people that agree with you. Well, that isn't going to happen here so try someone else.
Li
What mistakes exactly? It's my OPINION. You seem like an ungrateful child to me, that's not a mistake. Second people don't just wash clothes that appear clean and neatly folded....that's a truth. Making out that someone washed your clothes with malicious intent is ridiculous. If she wanted to hurt
I'm EXTREMELY picky on my clothes. I don't let people borrow try on touch my clothes period. I have a certain way of washing my stuff I paid good money for my things and don't want them ruined. If you are like me then I would say talk to her about it or if you don't mind your clothes being washed a certain way then be grateful
Little bit of column A, little bit of column B, in my opinion. You're acknowledging that its a nice thing of her to do, which it is. But it has inconvenienced you since you picked out that outfit specifically for this party, so I think you can be a little annoyed. I'd say talk to her without anger and explain where you're coming from.
Sa
Hope so. It would rly suck for you to have to take on some of those duties he's been delegating to his mom.
N�
I'm hoping he can take some responsibility soon. He gets his ps next weekend so maybe that might start some kind of process of him wanting to do stuff for himself
Sa
Haha Jesus that sounds super obnoxious. I dated a guy like that in college that still brought his clothes home to mom to wash every weekend. Major turn off for me.
Yes, you are allowed to be mad.Even when someone is doing something they perceive to be helpful or nice, when the choice is taken away from you, you have every right to be upset. She took your stuff without asking, or letting you know; you wanted that stuff, and now you dont have it because of that.It doesn't matter what she did with it, she should have at least let you know.
OC
I agree. It's weird to go into someone's bag and wash their clothes unless they asked. I'm a grown woman, married and my MOL does not pull that stuff. What happens if you had condoms in your bag, or a gift for her or whatever? That's weird.
N�
Thank you. I mean I'm not going to hate her for it. It's just made my plans harder and
I really don't understand all the people saying you should be grateful. I think it's disrespectful and an invasion of privacy to go through someone's bag without asking. My mum or MIL would never do that to me, just because she was trying to do something nice doesn't mean it's ok.And why not just tell you? Why let you leave and not mention that she had taken your clothes and washed them?I would just tell her that you really appreciate the gesture, but it's really not needed.
Mo
That's good that he said something, hopefully she won't do it again!
N�
My boyfriend said that to her. Because I only see him once a week. I thought it was weird that everyone thought I should be grateful. I understand it was a nice thing to do but a little warning would have been nice
You can be mad whenever you want to be. You are entitled to your own emotions. However, I think the energy you spent typing this post could've been spent just having a respectful convo with your mom. I'm sure she meant well and probably didn't realize the inconvenience it caused.
N�
Wasn't my mum who did it. It was my bfs mum. I wrote it when I found out so I was very annoyed at that moment
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