Hard To Orgasm...

Hello! Was wondering if anyone else had a hard time getting off when having sex?

My boyfriend I have now is a rare breed and can tell that I don't get off and gets bummed (says he wants it to be equal, even though I tell him sex still feels good and I still enjoy doing it).

I can get off when he goes down on me for a while, but rarely during intercourse. It's actually really unfortunate because he's the type of guy with an insane amount of control and doesn't orgasm until I tell him to (aka he can go for hours literally). I'd like to know some real advice because I don't want to waste a good thing lol.