Am I wrong for leaving a home of abuse?

Question

I'm 16,  in my last year of schooling and I have had depression for 4 years. 
My father I have nothing to do with anymore after he emotionally abused my mother for 4 years, constantly blackmailed her and I believe he hit her twice. He emotionally abused me when him and mom divorced and got physically a few times.

I went to a psychologist who asked me my reasons for leaving my dad. Her response? She told me off, yelled at me, told me how I was a "selfish little girl for leaving my dad." She said I was a brat who exaggerated everything he did for attention. This blew my mind and now I'm thinking maybe I am a bad person.

I want to know, does this psychologist have a point? Am I ruining my life by leaving this abusing fatherly figure or am I doing the right thing by leaving?

Edit: Yes the psychologist knew my father through old connections and he spoke to her before I went in. 
There is nothing more to the story. He simply abused me and my mom, I left and I got in trouble. 
My dad was also a cop but he is suspended for charges of assault on other people.

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I find it odd that physiatrist told you that. I'd have to hear everything you said to her before making a decision. When I was your age I saw things totally different to what I do now. The older the wiser, as they say! I was a selfish teenager and I did a lot of stupid things. Which, at the time, I thought there was nothing wrong with. If my daughter did any of the things I did, I would be horrified. I'm in no way condoning abuse, but you haven't really provided enough info for an honest answer.

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It's NEVER WRONG to leave an abuse household.. the faster u get out the better.  Some never do because they think it's normal.  The fact that u see it for what it is,  says a lot.

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Perhaps we aren't getting the full story. Therapists don't name call, they will however bring up points to both sides to make you think. No one here can validate you if we don't know both sides

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That psychologist was a nut job and completely unprofessional, I am questioning whether or not she is really licensed or just some kind of fake. A psychologist should never blame you for your decisions, only talk and ask questions… And any legitimate psychologist would fully approve of you cutting off a situation of abuse! You did the right thing, stay strong, and please find a real professional if you need to hear that message from someone else! 🙂

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That psychologist sounds very odd. I wonder if she must have some connection to your father? Or possibly not a psychologist at all. It just seems so strange, and this is not how most psychologists are. A true psychologist is not there to judge you as a person, but to help you sort out your feelings. I do believe that if you are old enough, leaving an abusive situation is always in your best interest. As a minor, I would talk to a school counselor and possibly call child protective services and get them involved until you're of age to leave on your own.

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You're not wrong, this chick needs to be fired. At least you did something instead of just letting it happen.

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Sometimes you have to do what's best for you

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She should never have said that and it is completely unprofessional. She has no first hand knowledge of your home life and cannot judge as such. I would try another therapist. If you can then leave, if it's so bad you cannot live there any longer for your physical or mental safety then that is what you need to do. You may have issues with the legal entity of this as you are under 18 but given the circumstances in which you want to leave I guess your father would not pursue you via the police

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Trust your heart. Your worth has nothing to do with a psychologists opinion of you. It sounds like she was unprofessional. I don't know if you are exaggerating or not, but neither does she really. You, your mother, & your father are the only ones that know the truth.

Am I wrong for leaving a home of abuse?

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