Flirting - forgive or not?

Question

Só I caught my boyfriend flirting with a girl on Facebook, he recently met with his brothers. She started the conversation and she started flirting but he flirted back and even said "fine. Drinks on me?" And she said "haha I'll think about it" and he goes "what is there to think about ahah?"

I confronted him via message because he is spending the weekend away with friends (we live together) and he apologised, blocked her, begged for my forgiveness blá blá blá. But all of this via message.

I don't know what to do. I feel hurt. He has not even called to apologise, only done it via message. I feel hurt mostly because our sex life is not been very good recently because of his stress and because 2 days ago he said "óh when you get a thinner belly, you should get a belly ring." That hurt me like shit and he knows it and apologised afterwards but I don't know.

I know he loves me and he has done só much for me, sacrificed só much. But I don't know what to do. I'm so hurt, I know the flirting for most of you will probably not be that bad but for me it's almost like cheating. And next year we won't be living together as we have work in different cities (4 hours from each other) but agreed to see each other every weekend but I don't know. I feel like I can't trust him anymore. But I'm not ready to lose him, and I don't think I ever will.

Any opinions? I'm sorry for the long post but I have no one to talk with. Also he has been messaging me but I have been ignoring most of it and replying to some of it, what do I do? He gets home on Monday.

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Well like you said, some women will think nothing of it, but you believe it's a form of cheating. Unfortunately there's no advice to really give. If you feel like you can never trust him again, leaving would be the best option. Considering without trust, there is no relationship! Good luck!

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If you're not ready to lose him, then turn the other way when he flirts and pay no attention to him talking about when you 'get a thinner belly'. Men who are respectful and care for their significant other, don't act like this.

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I wouldn't forgive because flirting like that planning on to have drinks is bad it eventually leads to cheating

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He's probably not a bad person, but if you can't trust him then why stay? If that honestly hurts you. Why stay?

I will never understand why women choose to be with men who do things that hurt. You can easily find someone who is devoted to just you. 
I guess what I'm saying is I would say fuck that I'm gone. If he changes I would think about taking him back but don't let people walk on you!

And by no means am I perfect

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Forgive and move on you are too strong of a woman to let that get in the way of you and your man. Fight using love as in communication, no matter what we can't stop a guy from flirting whether we catch them doing it or they do it behind our backs. Focus more on what your relationship its lacking and fix it, but in a wonder woman type strength (not physical). Men are emotional but just don't show it, you just got to remind them that the only girl who would love him unconditionally might not always be there when he calls but will pick him up when he falls. I know sounds mushy but works. Hopefully for others too.

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You have 2 options. Fight like hell for him. Show him why you two got together in the first place and reignite the flame. Or move on and go find a guy who won't flirt with girls when things get tough. It's completely up to you.

Talking from experience, a guy that lowers your self esteem or makes you ever feel like you're not good enough or that you're not everything he wants and needs is toxic. Once I got out of that, it hurt like hell because I loved the guy, but I was a much happier person. Now I'm with someone who truly appreciates me and makes me feel like the most special girl in the whole world. And that will be worth more to you than you even know.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.

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I would definitely see it as cheating if my husband was flirting/messaging another woman and would tell him where to go! Anything which breaks the trust and the intimate bond you are meant to share is cheating. It doesn't have to be physical.  I hate to ask but are you sure he is innocently away with friends?

Flirting - forgive or not?

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