Dreaded Mother In Laws

Sorry, but rant time 💙

Soon after my fiance and I discovered we were expecting, we wanted to grow up - and quick. Currently, we live with his mother, father, and older sister. Our bedroom is a modified office, with absolutely zero room for anything baby. We were planning on moving out of state and in with my brother, raising the child in a bigger apartment (I refuse to raise a baby in someone else's home).

The first time we told his parents of this was at a dinner. His mother's fury immediately lit in her eyes as she tried to bring up point after point to prevent us to move. She tried to guilt us with "You can't take my grandbaby" - my fiance tells her we plan on visiting, of course. She brings up how expensive babies are, but my fiance recently landed a job in the state we're moving in that'll pay well, as well as his military check. Finally she resorts to telling us that we "Won't be able to raise a baby right any damn ways so we may as well stay so SOMEONE can take care of the child."

And since then, it's all been downhill. My fiance is in debt to her due to a bad issue we had with our car, and she says we are not allowed to move without paying it off first. And apparently - I was not aware of this- our car was put in HER name while my fiance was away for military duty; meaning she owns OUR car somehow, and has for the past year without my knowledge (When he was sent off for the duty, I was kicked out because "we have no use for you", so I was never there for the proceeding to begin with). Currently, as we're trying to get a better equipped baby vehicle (currently we have a small 2 door), she absolutely refuses to sign it over or help us trade it in out of pure spite.

It truly scares me, because we are in the final steps of transferring bases to move: if she continues this, and we don't make it to the new base in the allotted time, my fiance could go to JAIL. And his mother is that type to threaten that as blackmail to try and make him stay. Just - ugh.

Is this the mother-in-law hatred women talk about? Because same girls. Same.