My husband doesn't understand why I don't want him to smoke pot.

A little background is me and my husband met in highschool, and were both pot heads. Fast forward to 3 years later, I got pregnant at 19. I quit smoking when I found out I was pregnant. My husband never did, and I never asked him too. Fast forward to two kids later. He was smoking all the time. Anytime he was home, he was high. Mind you I am not against smoking weed per say. I understand it's medicinal benefits, but that's not what this was.

I finally asked him to quit when I felt like he was only going to work, and not helping out doing anything else. He would sit around and play video games all damn day on the weekends. I would take the kids to the zoo, swimming, ect by myself cause he preferred to stay home and get high. I also was so worried he would get drug tested at work, and lose his job. We are a one income family and we cant afford that. He told me MANY times he would not quit. So I finally got to my breaking point after about 6 months of begging him to quit. I told him if he continued, I was taking the kids to my parents house. He reluctantly quit.

That was about 4 months ago. Things have been great since then. We've been to counseling, our marriage is great, he's so much more involved in our lives. Im pregnant with our 3rd. But... he keeps bringing up that he's basically resentful towards me because I made him choose. And that he really wants to smoke again.

I feel so lost. He feels like I'm trying to control him, but we just have TOO much to lose over something like pot. He doesn't understand and I honestly don't know if he ever will. No one in either of our family knows about any of this. I have no one to talk to about it.

just to add also, my brother is a k9 officer, so not only did i have to worry about the fact that where we live, it's illegal, but my brother comes to my house all the time and I was always waiting for him to say something.

AND sorry it's so long lol