Update: fiancé doesn't have a Facebook to answer that question from the comments. Also instead of advice majority of you seem to just want to bash, put me down, and take out past affairs/ experiences on me- rude. Lastly I thought I'd update the situation I decided to come clean and tell everything to everyone. This new guy was a little hurt but glad I told him the truth and really just doesn't want to lose me as a friend. My fiancé asked to read our conversations (I didn't think this was a good idea because it could be hard to stomach ) I let him. He like to analyze and so he did and then left for a day and when he came back he said he likes , Tyler, the guy id been talking with. He said he's a funny and cool guy and super respectful. He also said its not his fault (which I made sure to press this fact) because he didn't know I was enaged. Then my fiancé, Tom, told me he still loves me and to do what makes me happy. Tyler said the same because they care about me and my happiness. They are both so wonderful... Tom agreed that from the conversations it was mostly innocent friendship talking and then it suddenly became more and it wasn't planned and things. He also said he's never seen two people seem so right for eachother and he feels bad cause he kind of wants us(me and Tyler) to end up together. Our friends got involved arguments followed but in the end everyone agreed that there was a bond between Tyler and I that seemed crazy unreal. I have talked to him on Skype since and I do know someone in person who is close friends with him, identity confirmed (not catfishing) also my fiancé and I have been together for 5years and he is all I've ever known so it's a little more understandable from his view point that I could find something new and want to entertain it... Everyone is a little bruised but nothing's broken. I have explained that I don't know how I feel about Tyler just that I love him (maybe like a brother/ friend/ maybe more I'm not sure I've yet to meet him face to face ) . I've reassure my fiancé I still love him and it's true I do (sorry for all you rude people who are so certain I don't) there were a lot of tears and long conversations and we got to the route of our problems as a couple, so tom okay with Tyler and I continuing to talk remaining as friends and of course Tyler is just happy to have me in his life. It turns out tom was hiding some things from me as well .. And it really helped bring us closer to get that off his chest, the last fees days have been days for truth. And it hurt all the truth but it will heal in time. Thank you to the one or two people who didn't completely bash me and tried to give real advice not horrifyingly mean opinions. I have learned through Tyler to look at myself and love myself.. He's helped a lot with my mental illness and I honestly would of had another suicide attempt from some of these comments if I hadn't met him. I'm glad I'm in a place where I can read these comments and not hate myself for the circumstances. If you got this far ... Thank you for reading the update.