For those who get offended by abortion posts.

How about we all just worry about ourselves? Who cares what side you're on? It's not your life, not your body, worry about yourself. The problem isn't the women who are pro-choice, the problem is the people who are pro-life. They degrade, terrorize, and threaten frightened women who are trying to make the most important decision of their lives. It is frankly no ones business besides theirs and their doctor. It's so closed minded to think you can change someone's views, and it's selfish to reflect your political or moral values onto someone who is in such a critical state. Pro-lifers manipulate women and attempt to force them into doing something that could possibly ruin their lives. The excuse "don't have sex if you don't want a baby" is bullshit. I highly doubt when you all lost your virginities you were ready to pop out a baby. Condoms break, pills are missed, rapes occur, peer pressure pressures. We live in a world of free will, yet you want to tell women what to do to their bodies? It honestly makes no sense to me. Women have worked too damn hard to be equal in this world, yet we are trying to take even more rights away from us? Idiots.  

This was awesome, thank you!

I've had an abortion and I can tell you, the pain alone is enough punishment without everyone else judging you for that decision. Abortions are painful and humiliating in my experience. You lose a piece of yourself. I made my decision. And do I regret it? No. That man was an abusive piece of shit and I'm glad I'm not tied to him forever. But is it a dark place in my heart? Yes. I just feel like I chose the lesser of the two evils. Either way, the decision is hard enough. The action is hard enough. The pain.... the bleeding... the shame.... it's enough. To be judged by a complete stranger for it... well, we know it comes with the territory, but honestly, it's none of your business. Let our God judge us. You don't need to.

A few quick reminders: 1. This is not the place to discuss whether or not you agree with abortion (morally, politically, ethically). If you want to argue about abortion or state your opinion on it, there is a post in Controversy Corner for that. That post is the only place that discussion is allowed. We're letting this post stay up because it's about responses to women sharing their experiences, which is an important topic. Comments about positions on abortion will be deleted as they're off-topic. 2. Calling abortion murder/killing/etc is expressly forbidden by the rules. We don't allow shaming. Comments like that will be deleted. This needs to be a place women can feel safe sharing their experiences. You don't have to agree, but unless you have something constructive to add, just scroll on by.

I was with you until your stance on adoption. There are literally long ass waitlists for infants, its the older kids that go into foster homes.

I just feel like you shouldn't judge someone unless you walk a mile in their shoes.If you don't like abortion, then don't get one. Don't make someone else feel guilty for it, though. 

When people post about abortion, they will come across people with different opinions. I understand you're frustration with people saying "I've been trying so long" or "I'm infertile and this in insensitive", but I see many people who comment about adoption as an option and are very kind about it. Someone suggesting adoption as an option is not wrong. 

The bigger issue is that there is a million forms of birth control out there but yet 99% of unwanted pregnancies are not because of failed birth control its the fact that birth control wasn't used at all! 

I know you don't want any negative feedback, and by no means should this come off as negative feedback- and if it does, I apologize in advance (because that's the type of person I am, so don't hate).There are so many women out there who have not only been ttc for forever, but also born with conditions or have developed medical conditions that make it to where they can't have children. I know several women who couldn't conceive and adopted. So why the adoption hate?? I have a sister that was conceived right after I was born who was adopted and now has a WONDERFUL life, and has since she was born with the adoptive parents... And then her adoptive parents did ivf and had another baby. My sister didn't go to the foster system- she has a little sister and they are best friends. So, you're wrong- only a very VERY VERY few end up back in foster care. If you decide to have an abortion, cool. Your decision, your body, your life, your choice! Just because you don't regret it doesn't mean a piece of your soul and a piece of your heart goes with that baby as well. It hurts you physically and emotionally, whether you realize it or not. If you really wanna hear my personal opinion, here goes: if you don't want to be put in a position to be faced with this choice in the first place, use protection. Birth control ON TOP of condoms... My belief is once that fetus has a heart beat, it's a person. A real person. And that real little person didn't ask to be conceived. And if that fetus has a heart beat, then it's murder to kill it. So yes adoption is the better choice...So there's my opinion. Take it or leave it. No hate. No judgement. Opinions are like assholes, everybody has one. I'm just stating mine.

I don't understand why this is even a debate. I struggle with TTC and still after almost 2 years still don't have my own baby. That said, I don't want to preach about abortion to others, that's their own choice that they need to live with and nothing to do with me. As for adoption, I wouldn't even be considered here in Scotland as an adoptive parent as I don't look good on paper (have a bad family) so it isn't as easy as that otherwise I would have already done it.Have an abortion or don't, you know whatever!