How do you get over your partner being addicted to porn?

My partner is badly addicted to porn and watches porn that im not okay with mainly rape porn. I get that its "fantasy" but for me its a trigger from my childhood and being recorded. It also interferes with our own sex life. He has a really hard time staying hard for more than a minute and lately we have had to resort to buying pills from the drug store. He watches porn then isnt interested in sex or if he is he isnt interested in pleasing me and i can feel his irritation so i do all the pleasing of him and i go to bed fruatrated and a little sad. Only time he wants to actually do more than jump on get off quick and jump off is when he takes one of the pills and then its ALL ABOUT sex and us both pleasing each other which is great first time he took the pill it was not only first time ive ever squirted it was best sex we had ever had in our 2 years of being together. I know that porn isnt cheating but when it stops us from being intimate i feel it becomes an issue. Ive suggested watching porn together to kind of make a compromise. I don't masturbate ive only donw it when ive been single cause for me i feel like i want that to be something i do with my partner. I know this sounds childish im just hoping other ladies have suggestions for me.