Pregnant at 14 , I haven't told anyone and I would also consider my own options on what to do but ladies your advice really helps on here. I have a loving family and boyfriend. However keeping could be demanding for my mum as she has back problems.

Vote below to see results!

6.8k views • 12 upvotes • 201 comments

COMMENT (201)

Ki

Posted at
if you kept the baby, you would nees to take full responsibility of it, not your mum. it's ultimately your choice what you do 

Ma

Posted at
If you kept it YOU should be raising it, not your mother

Ja

Jada • Jun 23, 2016
Im sure she would have support from her parents...

Gr

Grace • Jun 21, 2016
I know this , but my mother is the most supportive person I know and she would be willing I would still look at my own child the little things my mother would only help with this

Er

Posted at
Im honestly not gonna answer the poll cause this is YOUR decision but if I was in that situation I would abort to be honest. The struggle of keeping the baby would be too much for me at that age plus giving the baby up for adoption and knowing they will struggle with the idea of why I gave them up is too much. Honestly if you choose any of these options I support you. Your body your choice remember that always. I wish you the best hun💗

Je

Jess • Jul 2, 2016
I'm 15, 16 next month and i 100% agree with this. I know I wouldn't be able to handle adoption and I know I can't support a child right now so that only leaves with one other option. Overall it's the persons choice on what they want to do with their body and their child no one else's.

Ha

Hannah • Jun 23, 2016
how would we possibly know that. it's anon

Er

Erin w. 🍫 • Jun 23, 2016
Why are y'all on my comment like I actually did have an abortion. she also made a new post saying she is KEEPING the baby.

Ba

Posted at
I got pregnant at fourteen. I wanted to keep the baby more than anything in the world. Then I started factoring my odds. I had zero education. I was a high school freshman. I had a boyfriend I loved and who loved me. But the reality was even if he did stay he would still also be a ridiculously young parent. You cannot count on other people to help with this. When you become a mom and decide to become a mom everything changes. You don't come first anymore. Your dreams and your goals and your life all get put in second place. The baby comes first. After fully thinking about everything and discussing it with different counsellors I decided to have an abortion.  It seemed like the best choice. I opted to go somewhere cheap and easy. Finances were a huge concern for me. I didn't have a lot to spend. I emptied my savings. And there is actually leftover scar tissue in my uterus from the procedure and I can't have children now. All I ever wanted to be was a mom and now I can't have kids. I'm not telling you what to do. I'm trying to show you, as someone who was in the exact same position as you, that this is one of the most important choices your going to make in your life. This is the first adult choice your making in your life. It's a big deal. It can't be answered with a poll on an app by strangers who don't know you. This is something you need to figure out on your own. I honestly wish you the best of luck. 

Sa

Sa • Jul 18, 2016
Baylee, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Especially so young💔 I'm sorry about the physical effect it had on you as well. I can't imagine what you must have gone through.

Em

Posted at
It depends on where your body is first off. No matter how good medical technology has gotten, a baby can still wreck your body. When I was fourteen I was 5'5 and a hundred pounds. If you're under a certain weight or if your hips haven't widened yet (I mean bone, not fat), then a baby could risk your life. After you've decided if it's healthy to have the baby (a decision best with a doctor's guidance; if you can't go see one you know, try and find someone to get you to planned parwnthood), then decide these things: are you financially able to support a child? Would the child have insurance? Would you have the proper equipment to care for a child (crib, clothes, food, 1-2 $30 packs of diapers a week, bottle, pacifier, etc)? Would you be prepared for the social repercussions (judgment from friends, peers, strangers, teachers, family)? If any of these few questions leave you uncertain, adoption is probably the best option. Adoption also allows you to take care of yourself and still have your own life, and you won't have any bitterness later about having to give up so much.Either way, good luck. If you decide to keep, look into programs like WIC and classes that give out any free stuff. No matter what you decide, start prenatal vitamins ASAP. Good luck!

Ab

Abbie • Jun 22, 2016
also they do have the option of open adoption which would allow you get get pictures and if you both agree you can see the baby from time to time. even talk to your priest he may know a couple in your church that have always wanted a baby and you could do it that way. privately

Gr

Grace • Jun 22, 2016
Thank you ever so much your advice has really helped and made me think x

Sa

Posted at
Just remember that it is no one else' decision. Good luck x

Ke

Posted at
I got pregnant at 14. I kept my daughter because I felt that was what was best for me. She is now almost one and I could not imagine my life being any other way. By all means do what's best for you. If you feel you are not ready to have a baby I would recommend adoption. I personally could never do that, but I am 100% pro choice your baby body ect. Best of luck 🙂

De

Deanna • Jun 22, 2016
I knew a girl who got pregnant at 14. She was married at 16 had her second baby before she graduated and she worked while going to school. Her family was very supportive and now she has 3 kids. :) i just saw her at a festival a few weeks ago and they're still doing great. :)

Gr

Grace • Jun 22, 2016
It's nice to know and prove to all the other comments on here that women who have babies early on dont have an awful life like they make it out to be! Every young mother who has wrote on here has succeeded so far which makes me see keeping not such a bad thing x

Ke

Kelleyanne • Jun 22, 2016
Just check out all your options, also don't worry about losing "friends" if they are real friends they will stay by your side. I personally haven't talked to any of my old friend since I left school almost two years ago. For "

sy

Posted at
I got pregnant at 14, had my son at 15. I'm now 16 and I've pretty much fully supported my son on my own. It's hard, but it is doable! Keep your head up mommy.

Gr

Grace • Jun 22, 2016
Amazing thank you xx

😋

Posted at
This is your choice in the end but if i was in your situation, id have an abortion at my age (im 16). I know it would be best for me as me and my boyfriend dont even have jobs, our parents would be paying for everything and caring for our child basically. I dont want them doing that, i want to bring a child that i can care for not rely on everyone else. It would be hard to finish school esspecially. Think about the pros and cons of every option you have. Dont let anyone force you to keep/abort/adopt your baby. Goodluck

Gr

Grace • Jun 21, 2016
Yes I understand thank you xxx

Em

Posted at
Abortion is a really big decision. And I think that possibly adoption is the better choice if you were to not keep it, love. Abortion is taking a life that didn't get to live. When you're able, that baby is only big enough to fit in the palm of your hand. That's not fair. I'm not trying to sound mean, so please don't take it that way. But please. Don't take a life.