We were hoping to tell my daughter last week after my 10wk appointment, but the doctor told me the nuchal fold is thick and suggested genetics testing for follow up. So we didn't tell my daughter. My fertility doc is releasing me to my ob this week, so I'll set up the testing with them. At this point, one colleague, my parents, and one of my friends know. Until we find out what's going on, we don't want to tell anyone. But that could be another two months. Now, I'm totally depressed. I've had two ectopics since my daughter. I haven't felt fully excited at all about this pregnancy because of the rough journey getting here. And the one thing I was thinking would boost my happiness (telling my daughter) has to be delayed. I feel like I'm never going to enjoy and embrace this pregnancy... A pregnancy I've wanted for a very long time.