Why does he treat me like I don't exist?!

My husband and I haven't been married long and we're already having trouble within us. Whenever I'm sad about something, he keeps his distance from me when all I want is a hug (I've told him this numerous times). Like he goes upstairs and closes the door, leaving me downstairs feeling completely isolated. Why can't he love on me when I feel sad or depressed? I don't have any friends. He's the only one I got. I feel extremely lonely.

Another thing is that he doesn't find me attractive. I'm a little overweight and he tells me I need to work out. He looks at me, disapproving of what I'm eating if it's not healthy. tells me that he won't buy me food. When I object to these things he says "don't make me feel bad because of my preferences" which is fit and muscular. If I don't look like what you prefer why did you marry me?! I feel comfortable with my body to eat anything I want (again, I'm not fat just overweight. 5'11 206 lbs). He makes me so depressed and insecure about how I feel that I don't even have the confidence to workout.

He will argue with me on the slightest thing I have an opinion about. Rolls his eyes at me when I have something to say. If I get a notification on my phone he rushes to ask me who I'm talking to. I can't have a phone conversation with my mom without him being around. No privacy at all. And I'm person who enjoys and values my personal space. He also knew this before marrying me. But I also hate being alone and feeling lonely and he just hangs me out to dry.

He doesn't show me any romance, doesn't seem remotely sincerely interested in me unless we haven't had sex in a while and then I just think that's he's doing it just to get off, not that he's actually interested in me. He doesn't buy me anything or do anything remotely sweet (I'm not materialistic but I like to feel appreciated sometimes just like any other woman. It doesn't have to be monetary, just show me that you love me!). I'm sad and broken. Why is he treating me this way?

I'm sorry to post anonymously. I'm just so embarrassed that we're having these problems because I put up a front in public that we're very happy and everything is okay. Everything is falling apart. The thought of leaving and going to my parents house sounds so alluring but I don't want them to know what's going on. They adore him!

Did any of you have any problems in your marriage and everything turned out okay? I need someone to tell me everything is going to be okay and this is just a rough patch.

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