Husband says cuddling with his son is gay.

So Jake and I have been really excited about this faint line we saw and have been discussing fun things about a future with a baby. I brought up snuggling I said, "I can't wait for our little boy or girl to come running up to us for a good snuggle." He responded, "Well that seems a little gross." I was confused and asked him what was gross. He says and I quote, "Its one thing if I cuddle with my daughter because that would be cute and she's gonna be daddy's little girl and I want to spoil her rotten. But cuddling my son is kind of gay. Would it be OK for two grown straight men to cuddle out of nowhere? I don't want our son crawling into bed with us or holding on to us. He's going to have to learn to be a man and if he has a nightmare he's going to have to deal with it." I was shocked. I said, " but he's not some random straight guy. He's your son and I've seen you hug your dad or put your arm around him during a ball game. That's not gay it's fatherly love. Why would you love our son any less than our daughter? Why should they be treated differently?" He says, "Well that's different because a hug isn't snuggling and my dad didn't let me do any of that either and I turned out okay. He could potentially be gay and I don't want him to have feelings towards me. It's fine to be gay but I don't want to be gay with him. I won't love him less I just won't give him the same kind of love. I'll love him like a son and love our daughter like a daughter but I won't be snuggling our son." I said, "Well with that mindset I guess our daughter won't be allowed to play sports or be anything but a homemaker." He said, "no she can do that but I don't think you should cuddle her just in case she may be a lesbian. Besides you're bisexual and you'll probably teach our daughter to act like that anyways." I said, "homosexuality isnt taught it's just what you're born with." He just rolled his eyes and said," fine do what you like but I won't cuddle with my son!" He made me drop it after that but now I'm horrified. What if I have a son!? He won't be loved like he should and I'm really nervous now. I never knew my husband was so homophobic. He used to praise me for being able to love everyone and be blind to their sex or color of their skin or sexual preferences. He said it's great that I'm able to look past all that and that more people should be like me. Now he's saying he doesn't want to encourage gayness?! Am I overreacting? How do I address this? Do alot of men feel this way and does it go away? I'm not leaving him over it so if that's suggested the comment will be reported. I would like real advice please. Thanks for your time ladies. Also here's the vvvfl and I got it at 15dpo two days past my missed period.