was it consent?
ive been doing some reflecting on something that happened to me a while ago and i wanted some outside opinions
to set the scene: high school, junior year. i'm 15 years old and i'd been crushing hardcore on 1 person (same age as myself, im not sharing their gender because its irrelevant to my question) for the last year or so... i'd fallen pretty hard. they were totally out of my league and i knew it but i worked up the nerve to ask them out and they kissed me outright, on the spot, in reply.
so little 15 year old me, who's only had 2 relationships before, ever, is pretty awestruck, and we decide to go over to their house together to hang out. i genuinely thought hang out meant Hang Out, but as soon as we started heading to their place they started asking about my sex life. i was a virgin (assuming one doesnt count CSA as a deflowering experience) and didnt have a lot to say
they started broaching the subject of whether i wanted to have sex that afternoon and my reply was sort of waffle-y because i didnt really expect the question and wasnt ready for it; i mentioned to that id been planning to wait until i hit the age of consent to start getting sexually active and hoped theyd get the point
they kept pressing the topic for several minutes and i told them that i wasnt really interested in doing it Then but maybe later that evening/another day, and they dropped it for a few minutes until we were just about at their house. out in front of the house they turned to me, all dramatic, got down on one knee and asked me: "Will you have sex with me"
i said, pretty much verbatim, "fuck it why not"
we did have sex (solid 3/10, didnt come) and they were very sweet about the whole thing but ive been reflecting on my relationship with sex as a concept, which tends to be rocky, and got to thinking maybe this was a lot iffier than it felt at the time
for reference i never felt physically threatened by them, im significantly taller and heavier than them and even now i feel confident that if they had tried to physically force me to have sex they would not have succeeded
tl;dr is it still consent if its only given after several rejections?
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