How do you feel about your SO, pleasuring himself?!

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I dont like it. Im just a crazy jealous person, that I even get mad over his hand?! Idk lol
I pleasure myself here and there. So im clearly a hypocrite.

My hubby told me he rubbed 1 out last night,watching porn. He hadnt done that in 2years,which is why it was weird.
It was also while we were fighting, and he did it just so we wouldnt have to have sex last night, since weve been on a little break for the last week...
Dammit. I was so mad when he told me he did that...idk why, its not right for me to be upset

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I don't mind at all if my hubby feels the need to "rub one out" whenever, but the way your husband did it would kind of piss me off too! I mean, it almost sounds like he was rubbing it your face (NO pun intended) to intentionally make you upset, and that's not cool.

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It does bother me sometimes. If I feel like we haven't been connecting sexually, I really don't appreciate him masturbating. It's like put the effort into OUR sex life and have sex with me.

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I don't care if my husband masturbates as long as it doesn't affect our sex life and he doesn't watch porn. He usually only does it when I'm on my period, but even then he doesn't do it every time.

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How can I get mad at my partner for something that I also do? That is slightly a rational. He is allowed to touch his own body whenever he pleases. I would suggest looking into the reasons why you feel so insecure when he does it. It may have something to do with feelings of inadequacy but it's important to remember that him masturbating has absolutely nothing to do with your worth. It is not connected in anyway. Just as his worth is not connected to your masturbation in anyway. Does it mean you're less attracted to your partner when you masturbate? Does it make you think any less of your partner when you masturbate? Do you not desire your partner and that's why you masturbate? If the answer is no to all of these questions, then the answer is no to all of these questions for him as well! Don't let your ego run the show. If you love with your heart, then you'll know that masturbation has nothing to do with our partners. We love them the same whether we masturbate or not. It's just human nature. I mean in this case, he finished himself because you two were in a fight. I personally wont have sex when I am fighting with my partner. Not as punishment, but because of the disconnect. But that doesn't mean I don't get horny! And I will take care of myself whenever I need to and no one is going to try to control me and tell me I can't do that.

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U no I actually wish my husband would rub on off! Lol since I've been with him he's never done it. People say "oh he's prob had crafty ones"... Right fine but we get up at the same time, he leaves for work 10 mins later, he works in an office only 30 min break which during his break he smokes n calls me, he's home at 5;30 sits n has tea watches tele n goes to bed with me. Weekends we r together all day both days and the guy always leaves the loo door open when he's on it. 🙄 I asked "why do u never wank!!" N he says... "I don't need to, we have a healthy se life, I'm past my porn days and I can't be arsed it's too much effort" 😳🙄 I find it unusual but maybe it's cos I'm only 25 n he's almost 34 idk lol

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I think it depends on your situation with your SO, I was in a long relationship and we were about 4 months from getting married but we pretty much completely stopped having sex and he would still please himself and never touch me, once he even did it while I was in bed next to him and he watched porn. That pissed me off to no end everytime he did it. I'm now married to a different man obviously lol and we have regular sex and sometimes he does it solo and it doesn't bother me at all. But I could definitely see why you were angry at him for it.

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Sometimes we get mad a the dumbest things but realize we are mad over somethig stupid that's ok it happens we are only humans and you guys where fighting so that of course would make you mad lol I do it all the time and then I calm down and am like why am I even mad about this ..

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My boyfriend and I hadn't had sex in the past few days and I noticed he was watching quite a bit it porn one night when I was out .I was a bit upset bUt then I thought it's okay as long as it doesn't happen too often.What do you girls think?

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He has had a relationship with his penis far longer than yours. Masturbation is healthy and you need to leave him alone. What are you jealous of? His hand?

Issues with porn are totally different and may or may not be justified. It doesn't bother me but my husband isn't obsessed and has no issues respecting me in the bedroom.

Let the man masturbate when he needs to. Telling he can't is controlling and bordering on abusive behavior

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I have a low sex drive thanks to the pill, which I use for symptom control of an as yet undiagnosed problem. I'm also frequently tired, irritable, and have days where I just don't want to be touched. We have sex several times a week, and he gets hand jobs. But I have no problem with him masturbating, because I certainly can't keep up with his high sex drive.

How do you feel about your SO, pleasuring himself?!

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