Anyone else lose their friends when they found out you were pregnant?

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So I found out I was pregnant back in the beginning of June. I am due February 17th. My "best friend" since preschool was there when my boyfriend and I found out. When I say my best friend I mean I have been friends with her since we were 4, we were inseparable and born 10 days apart. We ended up getting matching tattoos on our 19th birthdays together. She was there when we found out I was pregnant and I had a breakdown on her bathroom floor. At the time I was scared, didn't know what Russell and I were going to do. I work part time at a movie theater and he is in the Marine Corps who also works part time at Subway. So at the time we were nowhere near financially stable for a baby. But things have definitely changed. We are more excited than ever and have everything but the mattress for the crib.

Emma "(best friend)" was there for about the first month and then slowly started to stop calling, texting, coming over ect. She cast me aside for someone else named Nicole. I have spent my entire pregnancy by myself with Russell and no friends. It's been hard and he tries to be there for me as often as he can be, but he understands that sometimes I just need a girl friend to talk to. To be there with me during my pregnancy. I found out Emma had been saying things about me, like I am going to be a bad mother, my daughter will end up hating me, Russell would leave me. Whatever she could say behind my back that could/would hurt an overly emotional pregnant woman. She had offered to purchase a baby shower cake for us for our baby shower at the beginning of my pregnancy. So tonight I message her asking if she is still willing to help plan because my mom is doing it all on her own. And she kept making excuses after excuses. Which I knew would happen but it was worth a shot to see if she even wanted to be there anymore. But I guess not.

I was picked on a lot in school, and I have been diagnosed with depression, anxiety disorder, and a bipolar disorder. So making friends and staying friends with people has always been hard for me. I am not and never have used my disorders as excuses or a crutch, I am just simply stating that if people don't understand those disorders that it's harder to stay friends with people. So that's why tonight I was trying to hold on to that one strand of hope that my so called best friend would still want to talk to me. Or hang out. Because I don't have other friends. Being eight months pregnant is hard. I can't imagine how hard it is to do it by yourself but I can say doing it without a friend is still pretty hard. When you want to go out and have fun or try to still fit in with others. I love Russell and everything he does, but I wish I had other friends. Girl friends. That I could vent to and talk to. I may just be very over emotional tonight, but I needed somewhere to vent and figured this was the best place.

Ugh, I just wish things were easier and that my hormones weren't everywhere all the time.

Sorry for the rant, just needed somewhere/someone to vent to.

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