second miscarriage in a row.....why???

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After going through a miscarriage earlier this summer. My husbans and I were thrilled to learn after deciding to try again six months later we were pregnant again immediately.

We miscarried early on the first time. 5w6d to be exact is when I started cramping and bleeding. So in my head that was my marker just gotta make it past that and I'll feel better. So the morning of the 5w6d I got up and noticed first that my boobs weren't as heavy or sore as they were the previous day. Went to the bathroom and when I wiped there was two spots of blood. I knew immediately. Like Deja Vu. Sure enough by the end of the day yesterday I'm bleeding full force like a heavy crampy period. 😰😰😰😰😰😰
Another one lost the exact same way. The exact same gestation to the day. What does that mean??????? And why?????
Doctor wants to do an ultrasound. I don't see the point. Been there done that. I already know. 
I'm more interested in why. Am I sick?  Cancer? Hormone imbalance? Infection?  Can I check for these things???

I do have three healthy boys from two all natural pregnancies. I know I'm blessed. And I'm so grateful for them. But we have one more to complete our clan. We were hoping for a baby girl to complete us. And now I'm wondering if I'm being greedy and God is trying to tell me to be content with my guys.

My heart goes out to all the women that have gone thru this repeatedly. I don't think I have it in me to do it again.

Anyone else have similar miscarriages and found out why and then went on to have normal healthy pregnancies and babies????

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I had two miscarriages in a row as well. Got pregnant easily both times, felt well, no symptoms. I actually found out about both when I did not hear heart beat at midwife appts. Both were "missed miscarriages" which means I continued to feel pregnant and have no signs of miscarriage for many weeks after the loss occurred. First loss occurred at 8.5 weeks but I didn't find out until 14 weeks. Second miscarriage happened at 6 weeks but I didn't find out until 8 weeks. Took three separate attempts three consecutive weekends with oral misoprostol to finally abort the tissue at home. On last try midwife increased the dosage to 3 pills and it worked. When I found out about the 2nd loss I decided I wanted to try to retain the tissue for chromosomal testing, which I was able to do. Came back positive for Trisomy 16, which is a common cause for miscarriage.
When the results came back I flew to Florida for a weekend in the sun alone to gather myself and think of what I wanted to do. I decided that I would take the summer to just live my life, travel, see friends, and just enjoy myself for a solid 3 months. It was such a huge relief to just block off that time for myself and not feel the pressure of trying again. After a lovely summer spending quality time with my husband and friends, I was ready to try one more time. Once again it was easy for me to get pregnant and I'm happy to report that I'm now 23 weeks pregnant and healthy. I still feel raw about the two miscarriages, and because I'm 33 now, I'm not sure I'll ever want to try to have another baby in the future. I am open to the possibility but I am also open to adoption to grow my family. I'm thankful that I took my time figuring out if I could actually handle trying a third time. I hope my experience gives you some perspective and helps you to know you're not alone. Give yourself time and space to figure out your path forward.

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I had a similar situation happen. I lost my first baby at exactly 5 weeks in may. I lost my second baby at exactly 6 weeks in August. My doctor never ran any special tests to check for reasons, but told me to start progesterone the minute I got my next positive test at home. I got pregnant with my third baby in sept and started progesterone right away. I'm 16 weeks now. Hope this gives you hope!

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So sorry for your loss. I had 3 in a row. One in June, August and December last year. No explanation for it. We have a beautiful daughter through IVF and now thinking we can never have a baby naturally without help. I'm hoping 2017 is a better year for us and we can complete our family.

Be kind to yourself x

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I'm going through my 2nd miscarriage also right now. This one at 5 weeks and I lost a baby at 11 weeks in September. I'm so heartbroken...

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I just can't accept the line that these things just happen and no one cares about the reason why so many women have so many miscarriages. I found a book called Is Your Body Baby Friendly? "Unexplained" Infertility, miscarriage, and IVF Failure: explained and treated
By Alan E. Beer, M.D.
I haven't finished it yet, but it makes so much more sense to me that there could be a lot of immune system issues causing miscarriages in otherwise healthy seeming women rather than that there is no reason. To me it just didn't make sense why miscarriage would be so prevalent and no one cares why it's happening!

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So sorry for your losses, l'm in a similar situation, lost my first at 5+5 in October and would have been 8 weeks with 2nd now but found out it stopped growing before 6weeks. Have started to miscarry naturally but dr says they consider 1or 2 normal and won't refer me for tests until I have 3 miscarriages! I just don't know if I can go through it again! Reading up I've heard of low progesterone being an issue with losses before 6 weeks but I think it's something that can only be tested for in the early stages of pregnancy so if we do try again I'm thinking I could perhaps insist on testing for my levels when I find out.

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2 miscarriages via IVF, first one low Beta miscarried on 5 weeks, second one miscarried on 8 weeks. Second one was definitely a shock bc had a check on week 6, and everything was normal. Going to listen to heartbeat on week 8, so excited and thinking of baby names outside doctor's office, and doctor's face changed during ultrasound. Didn't even cry until i was in the car. Mine definitely not low progesterone because everything was monitored and on daily crinone and progesterone injection. Did full on miscarriage profile and chromosome test, found nothing wrong. Still traumatized to do another FET, but I think better do all the miscarriage profiles so you can find out what's wrong earlier than later. But then when everything is normal like mine, you will be more confused 🙄

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It's pretty simple to get auto immune testing done. I am now experiencing my second loss and my doctor said I could test when my hcg is back to zero. Fingers crossed I bleed soon, so far just had one day of red blood and dropped levels. As sad as we are, we want this to just be over so we can move on. So sorry for your loss. 💜

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I had my first miscarriage last year, I went for my first US at 12 weeks but they said the baby stopped growing at 6w5d. I miscared one week after the ultrasound. Then I got pregnant again one year later. (I have a bicornaute uterus so I struggle getting pregnant) So happy having passed the first trimester, first US was good, second US at 22 weeks showed a healthy baby boy. No problem, no pain. At 24 weeks I checked myself baby's heartbeat with a home Doppler and I couldn't heard anything. I panicked and went for an US at the hospital and they confirmed that my baby passed away. I was induced 2 days latter (December 22) because I had no pain, no bleeding, anything.... My body didn't reject the baby. And at the end the doctors just told me that sometimes things like that happens. So, go figure what's wrong with us.

second miscarriage in a row.....why???

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