What made you decide to leave?

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I am think about leaving/breaking up with my boyfriend. Not because he's mean or isn't sweet or anything bad, but because I think we just have drastically different priorities and views on life.
 
For instance, he HATES going out. And usually, when we make plans to actually go out, he finds a way to change them at the last minute. "Oh, I booked a round of golf, sorry! Can't cancel or they'll charge me!"
 
He is so cheap. He makes three times what I do, but everything is about money. EVERYTHING. "Oh, I don't want to eat out because it's so expensive." "No, I don't think we should do gifts because I'm trying to save money." He's not saving for a house or a car or a trip or anything. He's just saving to save, which I admire, but at the same time, we get one life....why not enjoy its experiences?
 
Sorry, pressed send on accident.
 
Continued - his dad has bipolar disorder as well as mild demntia (he's 82) and I get that it's very frustrating to have to "parent" your parent, but the way he talks to him sometimes is the biggest turn off. He's so condescending to his dad.  
 
He jokes ALL THE FUCKING time about sex. Every other thing that comes out of his mouth is some quip about sex and it drives me insane! 
 
He is inherently selfish, which he is an only child and I can deal with that, but to the point where my wants and desires are pushed completely to the side.
 
He made such a big deal about his birthday, he reminded me for months. I knew it was very important to him. But for mine, he was originally going on a trip to see his friends and now he's changed that to go see his dad, neither of which I was invited to. It feels so unbalanced. I have to do everything for him, but he doesn't have to make me feel special.

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I know how you feel. I think before you mention breaking up you should try to find some common ground with him. Let him know exactly how you feel and that he's not really making any effort. My boyfriend and I alternate between paying. He pays for one date and I pay for the other. Try to find something that works for you guys.

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If you're not happy, leave.

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One of the biggest indicators that my ex was an asshole, was how he treated his parents. Big red flag. He treated his Mom like garbage. Eventually that's how he would treat me.

You are in this relationship for the long haul and because you obviously love him. He's Not though. It's a one sided relationship.

So ask yourself, if nothing changed, would you be happy like this forever? My guess is that the answer is no. To find the man of my dreams, I had to leave the man who hurt me behind, despite how much I loved him and wanted so deeply to make it work.

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Those seem like all valid reasons to end the relationship.  I would if I were you.  When I was 23 I was with a wonderful guy but he really had nothing going for him in life and had no drive or ambition to be anything.  I ended the relationship because of it and today he is single, overweight, living at home with a deadend job about to turn 40.  Trust your gut!

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I think you're dating my ex 😂 girl, it took me forever to get my wits together enough to leave him. But seriously, it's the best decision I've ever made. I am a million times more happy. ❤ you only get ONE life. There's no reason to be unhappy.

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If you have to ask the question, you know the answer. Good luck

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Kind of weigh your opinions. If all those things can out weight the good in him then is it worth it?

What made you decide to leave?

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