gaining weight when around my husband

It's always been this way, I guess you can call it "happy weight". When my husband and I first got together I gained around 30 pounds. We LOVE to go out to eat. Eating and talking and having a good time is how we express our love, it's always been that way. When he went off to army basic training I started doing advocare and lost almost 20 pounds. When he got back I gained a little bit of it back but it was easy to maintain because he was still away at his career training 3 hours away. Whenever I would come over on weekends though all we would do was eat eat eat. Before he left for Kuwait we had one whole month together and in that month I gained a lot of weight and got pregnant. I was around 193 when I got pregnant and went down to about 182 after he left because I was eating better without him there. He wasnt there for the baby's birth but when I gave birth I was 203. I lost weight very quickly and got down to 188 only a couple days after having my baby but then my husband came home again and I went back up to 195. He left again for 4 months and I was doing real well and went down to 180 but when he came back it was the same thing again, I gained weight... we are now in our new home in our new town and I think I weigh around 200. Idk, I'm too scared to get on a scale. When we first met I was around 145 so that's around a 50 pound weight gain over the past 3 years. I've always had problems with my weight and I have never been the type of person who could eat whatever I want. My husbands weight has fluctuated too but he's in the army so he usually just eats whatever he wants and does pt to burn it off. Because I'm around him, I eat whatever he eats and he is always bringing terrible food home for us while I just sit on the couch all day with the baby. I try to cook but I always end up making too much and over eating because he overeats. I am definitely a social eater and I find myself being better off when I'm alone because I can control myself but that's not an option here...