What to do (boyfriend keeps trying to make me do oral sex)

Question

When I was younger I had a bad experience with oral sex an ex wouldn't take no for an awnser and up until recently my boyfriend understood this but now he's claiming his  "personalities" are making him want it more        
(he doesn't have anything of that sort) and he's saying all these fantasies he's having were I'm doing that to him and he's acting roughly with me but idk how do i get him to understand I really don't want to before what happened before happens again I love him and all but im scared hes not gonna take no for an answer

Answer

If he's getting forceful it may be time to stay with someone else for a couple of days to show him you are serious. The next time he tries to make you do say no and if he still tries it just have a bag ready and walk out the door and ignore him for like 2 days make your voice be heard.

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If you've explained this to him and he's still not respecting that maybe you need to break up.. he should respect that you've had a bad experience with it and that you're are still not ready. Using excuses to get someone to do something like that is manipulative and dangerous. That's not okay and I'm sorry, but you deserve better.

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The fact that you said you're scared of him is very concerning. You should never be scared of the person you're with. They're supposed to be a source of comfort, protection, etc. They are not someone to fear. But if they are then I really don't think you should be with them. My ex was forceful with me and I did things for him I didn't want to do. That was a few years ago now and it still has an effect on me. No one deserves to feel afraid in their relationship.

If he can't understand that you don't want to do something like give oral then he's not worth it. A decent guy that really loves you will never force you into something you don't want to do.

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Break up with him if he continues he could end up forcing you to do other things that's not okay if you're scared get out if he's trying to force you to do anything GET OUT

What to do (boyfriend keeps trying to make me do oral sex)

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