I feel bad for my baby. Am I overreacting?

I see everyone having baby showers and gender reveals. I have no friends (long story but I didn't get to go to high school) that live in my state. I have no support of family members (they don't know) but they're all hateful and judgmental so I don't want to tell them. All I have is my husband and his family pretends I don't exist for no reason. I grew up not having a close family or any godparents so I always wanted my kid to grow up surrounded by lots of love by others and my child's birth is going to be exactly like mine. I am so upset about this and I'm not even enjoying my pregnancy because I'm hiding it. I don't want to hear people being rude about an innocent child.