Lesbian TTC problems

Me and my wife have been actively TTC for the last 2 years using the same donor each time and I was hoping it was something wrong with his spem and It wasn't me so my wife tries for the first time and gets pregnant 😭... which means it was something wrong with me how can I be happy for her when I did everything I could to get pregnant for 2 years and nothing happened yes I know her child will be mines too but i wanna experience being pregnant, giving birth, baby kicks etc. 😓