Ingrown hair on inner labia???

Yesterday I discovered a strange lump on the right side of my labia minora. It was painful throughout the day sitting and some movements caused pain. I looked at it and it didn't seem red at all, and it hurt to squeeze it. I spoke with my mom and she told me that she thinks it is an ingrown hair. I looked at it again today and it is slightly redder and more painful to the touch. I believe it is an ingrown hair at this point...the only problem is I have no idea how to get rid of it. Any ideas on how to get rid of it without going to a doctor? Or, if it could be something else is there any suggestions?