Is anybody else out there scared about starting a family?

Question

My husband and I have been TTC since last August. Since that time I've had some real roller coaster emotions.

We have a great marriage and we decided we were ready to start a family. Although Lord knows we could be more financially secure. But I've always heard that if everyone waited until they could afford kids to have them nobody would have kids.

First I told myself it was no big deal when I'd keep getting my period. Then I noticed I got more and more anxious as the months passed. Then last month I really thought I was pregnant. I was wrong. And I was a bit crushed. Crushed enough that it surprised me.

As I am already in my mid-thirties my husband and I have discussed fertility options. I have already had some tests done. I even have a doctor's appointment set next week for the "next step" down this road.

Somehow last month was a tipping point for me. I was scared before we started trying, then I was ready. Now I'm scared again. My whole life will turn upside down once we have kids! Although any child of mine will have an AMAZING father and awesome grandparents/aunts uncles/cousins, I am just scared.

Does anyone else get scared?

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No matter what age or financial situtation there will always be something to worry about. I had my first at 20, second at 29 and now im 35 and I want one more. My husband and I have great jobs but my worry is my age and being in my forties with a youngster...Once that baby comes nothing else matters but providing love and security. Its that love that will make you find a way to provide for all of your little ones needs. You will be fine. ☺️☺️☺️

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I'm a mother of two girls (TTC #3) had my first at 24, second at 35. You'll always be worried about one thing or another. You'll find something to worry about. But the overwhelming joy and love you feel when you finally get to hold your baby overshadows everything. So go easy on yourself, you'll beat yourself up plenty over nothing along the way. That's how you know you love your kids. Just wait till the smart mouth kicks in....😉

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I had a baby at 21 and was scared at first but got super excited. I conceived again at 35 after only like 2 weeks of trying and was pretty scared again, but very happy. I ended up losing that baby and now I just want a baby more than anything. I'll probably be scared again next time because I'll be afraid to lose it. Having a baby is just a big event, so it is scary, but it's soooo worth it. I LOVE being a mom, and my kid is a teen, and I still love it.

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Dear sister, 
   I also get scared. 
   My husband and I were married in September 2015, and I went to him in July/August of 2016 asking if we could start trying. At the time, he was 24 and I was 28. He said yes, and by September we were pregnant (despite the fact I'd taken birth control since I was 18 years old).
    Let me start by saying how blessed I feel that we conceived so quickly, I know that is a luxury. 
    Additionally, I work with children and adolescents as a therapist, and have worked with this population since 2010.
    Am I terrified? Yes. 
I worry about her knowing and loving the Lord, but not rejecting Him if I push it too hard. 
I worry about her loving herself and being confident in ways I never have been. 
I worry about giving her the family my husband and I have never had. 
I worry about the relationship she'll have with me and my husband. 
I worry about her health.
Her first heartbreak.

However, I have to trust in the God who holds it all in His hands. If He can do something with me, I know He can with my daughter through me.

If you're a woman of faith, pray. 
If you're not, I hope you become one, but until then, keep in mind women have been baby makin' for centuries, and you being worried already speaks to something.

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We got baby number one without trying and when that second line appeared I had a panic attack! I was terrified, excited, but terrified. I didn't even know how to tell my husband.... it took me 3 days or more to figure it out myself and tell him. But I can't imagine my life without my little boy and honestly can't remember my life without him. It's scary af but it's the most rewarding thing you will ever do! Now we are starting cycle 6 TTC #2 and now I'm terrified it won't happen again for us since it was so easy with #1 😭. Keep trying and I'm sure you'll agree that it's the best thing you've ever done ! Babies rock!!🙌🏼

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Never was i ever scared to start a family. after high school, that's all i could think about, babies! I was definitely scared though if i could even conceive babies and have problems when im older. I had my first baby in 2012. But still struggling for my 2nd... kinda scared i won't conceive... but god is with me.

Is anybody else out there scared about starting a family?

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