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Good morning everyone. 
As I write this post, I question whether or not I'll get support or be told how horrible I am. I am 22 weeks pregnant with my first. Before I got pregnant, I always told myself how healthy I would eat and how much excercise I would do for the baby. But the truth is, that's all gone down hill. I don't excercise, I walk while I'm at work but that's it. TBH, I'm just too damn tired to excercise!! When people ask me if I've been walking or jogging for the baby, I just lie and say a little because i know I'll get shamed for not doing it!!:( 
And the truth is, I drive through fast food places a few times a week. I don't feel like cooking all the time and honestly, I crave a cheeseburger all the time!!! 
I don't want to be a bad mom. Am I being a bad mom? This pregnancy has got me so tired, all the time😔 i don't know how some women are working out everyday!! I can barely walk up my front steps without losing my breath...

I love my son, but am I harming him by my actions right now?

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You are NOT a bad mom. I'm so tired of all the shaming of pregnant women. It just breeds feelings of inadequacy and guilt. At the end of the day, EVERY pregnancy is different, and every woman is different! I know some people who have tons of energy while pregnant, and others bedridden with the worst fatigue and morning sickness. The bottom line is that we are all different and should be supporting one another. You are doing just fine. I would say the worst thing for any baby is a mom who is stressed or feeling bad about herself because of something she feels she *should* or *should not* be doing. As long as your doctor says you are on track with your weight, sugar and blood levels, you're doing great ❤

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Thank you all so much for the kind words. No one u derstand like this community does! It's so nice to hear. Much love.💙💙

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I did the same! I walked as much as I could but honestly my back ached and my hips killed so I couldn't excercise as much as I'd hoped. Drink lots of water take your vitamins try and eat a balanced diet but eating fast food isn't the worst choice you can make. I felt incredibly guilty all the time but my hubs was great and said I could only do so much and that a cheeseburger here or there was fine. I gave birth to a happy healthy baby girl who is seemingly fine from me having chocolate and burgers. Just do your best and don't let what others think or say bother you. I found there was always someone with an opinion but my closest friends were super supportive.

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Just try to balance it out by adding more vegetables throughout the day and drinking lots of water. You are not a bad mom! Compared to all the "doing drugs/will they drug test me or my baby" posts I've been seeing lately, you're mother of the year! Lol. Just take your vitamins, drink plenty of water and eat your fruits and veggies and it will be okay!

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You're fine, I don't exercise other than walking around at work all day. And on pretty days I may take a stroll with my other son in the park. You're not being a bad mom, you're being a normal pregnant woman lol 
I eat healthy most of the time but I give in to my cravings of unhealthy food just about everyday.  As long as you're getting the nutrients you need and aren't gaining too much weight you're perfectly fine. Your dr will tell you if anything gets too concerning

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This is absolutely me. I was going to work out all the time because of how it helps before and after labor ... I was going to eat healthy for my little baby ... Nope. I feel the same way as you! Totally exhausted. (I'm 23+3 wks) eating habits .... Not great .. loving Dunkin donuts! And bagels and sweets .. wishing I could eat ice cream sandwiches but when I do I throw up lol just do what your body tells you to do. Your baby will be perfect. Keep up with your prenatals and water ! Which ... Again. I should be drinking 10 glasses... I'm lucky if I get 5 lol Best Wishes to you 💕

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No you're not a bad mom!! The only concern with what you're doing is that by eating fast food you're not getting good nutrients. If you're otherwise eating your fruits and veggies etc you're absolutely fine.  If you're exhausted you can try popping something easy into a slow cooker in the morning. You can throw chicken breast, cream of chicken or mushroom soup, a little water, and a bag of frozen veggies and voila, dinner! But you can't be perfect all the time and your body is making big changes, it's normal to feel tired and not be able to exercise and cook every day etc

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Honey, relax.  You are NOT a bad mom.  I ate donuts by the bag during my last trimester and my son (now 8 weeks old) is as healthy as could be.  I was also healthy despite this.
 
And you ARE tired, and that is okay.  Try stretches while sitting or bouncing on a yoga ball at home (this also helps babies position and prepares you for labor).
 
(Hugs). You have got this!

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