Gender disappointment?

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I have found out today that I am having a boy. I am 15 weeks. I feel... completely devastated... And guilty for feeling so. I didn't want a boy, I never wanted a boy. Has anyone else felt this? I have a daughter, she's the best. She's 7. It's always been just me and her. I really wanted another girl, and a sister for her. Has anyone else felt this pure devastation, and gotten through it? I know I should be happy regardless, but the truth is I don't feel it. All excitement has completely left my body.... 😭

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Be happy he is healthy and you will get to hold him. 
I was due October 16 and I found out my baby girl had trisomy 18, and I had to terminate my pregnancy because she would have died at birth or in my belly. Hardest decision I ever had to make. So please put ur hand on your belly and appreciate what you have been given because I would do anything to be able to put my hand on my stomach and feel her kick.

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Its hard when you have gender disappointment because sometimes people don't understand. I had depression when i found out i was having a boy. I've always wanted and prayed for a girl. But people laughed and thought i was being silly and should just be thankful the baby is healthy. I kept my feelings to myself after that. But when my baby boy came out, the love i have for him is just as unconditional as i would of any gender child. He's so adorable.

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I'm worried I may experience the same thing. I want a boy so bad, and I know I would be a bit disappointed if my baby is a girl. A friend suggested we do a gender reveal at a party we're throwing next month and​ I told her I couldn't because if I found out it was a girl I wouldn't be able to hide the look of disappointment in front of all our friends and family.

For what it's worth, I don't think it makes us bad people. Just might take some time adjusting and getting used to.

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I was the opposite! When we found out my daughter was a girl we were both bummed for a while. We only wanted boys. But DEAR LORD I love her to pieces! She's 10 months old now and my husband and I cannot get enough of her. It's okay to be bummed, just know it won't last!

P.S. I will be bummed again when she's going through puberty... pubescent/teen girls are the reason I didn't want girls!!

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Im 17 weeks and found out its a girl. I wanted a boy 😢 so i know how you feel.

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I wanted a girl but my son has stolen my heart! Seriously bejng a boy mom is the best ❤️

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It's ok! It happens, but once that baby is here you'll be thrilled. Go buy some boy clothes, and try to get yourself excited!

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Thank you guys! I'm already feeling a bit better. Not to mention, my daughter... look what she said! Lol

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It's ok to be disappointed that will go away with time. Boys are wonderful too and love they're mamas so much! I have a 20 month old son and he is amazing! We just found out last week we're having a girl! We're so in shock! I'm so excited but her dad is clearly disappointed. He's getting over it I don't blame him he can't help how he feels. I know he'll love her so much when she gets her hopefully soon just as you will with your son! I'm 15 weeks tomorrow too!

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I was super nervous about finding out the gender bc my husband and I both wanted another girl (we already have a 3 year old daughter). We just really love having a girl and everything that comes with it. But I found out I'm having a boy. First a cried but I couldn't tell if it was sadness or excitement. Well my fears turned to excitement and disbelief we are gonna have a son! You'll get over it and it will be the greatest blessing :) cheer up.

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