To send or not to send?

Question

I met a man at school about 2 years ago. We really hit it off, we spent so much time together. We tried a relationship of some sort but determined we weren't ready and continued being friends. In that time, I fell in love with this guy. Not lusty, not like I have to have him- the kind of love where I want to be with him forever, I want to be his best friend- and even though we mutually called off the relationship, I felt confident it would all work out in the end.
Fast forward a little more than a year after we finished school. We still spend quite a bit of time together when I'm home, we even went on a trip together last year. He sent me a letter (we live on opposite sides of the country) a few months ago sort of alluding to "us" being a thing in the future. I felt overwhelmed and didn't respond to him but over these last few months have really been feeling this love I have for him. We talked on the phone a week ago and he told me he just started dating someone. It's not serious, he said, as they've only been dating for a month or less. 
Of course, now I want to send him a letter. Now that I could lose him, I want to tell him how I feel. I don't want to do it in person, because I don't want him to feel trapped so I think a letter is the best approach- that way he can take as much time as he needs to respond accordingly.
I've written the letter and it's short and VERY blunt about my feelings towards him. I tell him that I don't have expectations for his response, I just wanted him to know how I feel.

Okay. After reading this entire post, what do you think? Is it wrong for me to send the letter? Or is it okay?

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Girl send it! If you don't let him know you could regret it.

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There's never anything wrong with telling someone how you feel, even if they are in a relationship. It would only really be a problem if you were using your feelings to manipulate him, make him feel bad, pressure him out of his relationship etc etc. but simply letting him know where you stand is fair.

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I would tell him and step back so he could make his decision. I would be clear of how I feel, and nothing else. After that, it would be his decision, I wouldnt keep insisting since he is seeing someone. And I would only involve myself if he CAME to me saying that he isnt seeing her anymore and telling me he wanted to try one more time.

You know, its better than keep asking yourself "what if I had told him, would it have worked?". We live once, dont have regrets. Live and learn.

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I'm on the fence about it. I personally think that if he had any serious intention towards you, it would have happened already. I think dating to find "the one" is a bit of a scam. Not that I didn't do it when I was in college. I did it a lot. But I always knew within three months whether the relationship would go anywhere based on how the guy acted towards me. I knew my now husband was the one because he told me he was right off the bat. I was in a similar situation to you; met a guy, dated for a while, he never made any hint of a long term commitment, we continue to be really close friends, he dates someone else (several others and so did I) them at the end of 3 years of "maybe this will go somewhere" I met my now husband. To this day I know that this guy would never make the commitment. He had enough time to choose me and he didn't. But my now hubby did!

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You definitely need to send it!! I mean, be prepared for him to say "why is it now that I'm dating someone else you suddenly send me this?" But he could also be in love with you and waiting for you to tell him how you feel!! So exciting!!! Keep us posted!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

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You dont  want him, you  just dont want anyone  else to have  him. If you did, you wouldn't  have let months go by and not reply..... but  now that  u can lose him the jealous  bug is coming out.

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