More than annoyed with my inlaws

My husband and I moved across the country well over a year ago because he joined the military and that's where they put him. His mother calls him I'd say at least once a month crying and sobbing, pretty much making him feel guilty for being so far away (3,006 miles to be exact). No joke I have to then deal with a depressed husband for about a week because he feels bad and he thinks he made the wrong decision enlisting. Until I snap him out of it and explain to him he made a great decision because look at the life he is able to provide for him and I and now our son on the way. I understand he's her son and she's sad but what the actual fuck lady. You are the mother, the parent. You should not be guilt tripping your son who has no say on where the military puts him. Also might I mention they have only visited 1 time since we've been out here, Once! Normal people would say "well maybe they can't afford the trip out there" but about two months ago his father made a comment to my mother and said "I don't know about you but we can afford to fly out there at a drop of a hat " OKAYYY well why is it that both my parents (who are divorced) have been out here more times then you can count but you've only been here once for all of 4 days??? It's fucking ridiculous, for people who are constantly bringing down my husband for living over here they make 0 effort to see him. Oh and might I add they are going to Florida for vacation next week but I guarantee when we go home for our baby shower they will say something about never seeing him again. I can only imagine the kind of shit that will come out of her mouth when her grandson is born and she never sees him because she never comes to visit. I just want to tell her to FUCK OFF.