Break up after 7 1/2 years REALLY?!

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So me & my ex were together for 7 1/2 years & I ended up moving in with him a year & a half ago. We broke up because he says he wants some time to himself but he still loves me & wants to take care of me, talk to me & hangout once in a while. I ended moving back in with my parents but they still don't know we broke up idk how to tell them that I'm breaking a little every day because I got so used to being with him idk how to be in my own. Im trying to distract myself with working out or hanging out with my fam but i just feel so depressed that i feel like they can feel how I'm feeling. Me and him have been hanging out like every day since we broke up which has been about a week. We both think this is a hard thing to do & we both don't want to see each other with other people but we both know that might be the case one day. I'm just so confused because we have broke up in the past & most of the time it's been him breaking up with me but we always got back together. So I'm just so confused because what if I end up waiting for him for nothing & he ends up moving on & i just stay even more broken hearted but what if we do get back together how long should i wait. Idk i just feel so lost without him...this can't be healthy but i have no friends to talk to or hangout with at all to talk about my problems so I'm coming here. His mom says we are going to end up back together but i don't want to get my hopes up for nothing. I gave this guy practicality my whole life but Idk what to do with myself i guess..

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If he keeps breaking up with you, why waste your time with a baby like that? He either wants you or not!! Move on and find someone who loves you

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I know exactly what you're going through. My husband left at the end of April and we'd been together 12 years married for 5. He left for another woman he had just met who had 3 previous husbands, currently married to the 4th and has 6 kids only custody of 1. All those red flags and still he left. We had broken up before both times not for very long. Even since he left we'd still been talking and trying to talk it out and figure out what to do next, I thought he was done with her but he wasn't so I cut off direct contact. We only talk through a mutual friend now. I know it's hard and I miss him all the time. Everything reminds me of him but it seems this will keep happening and each time it gets worse. We need to find someone who loves us too much to let us go. Stay strong and hang in there. Set your mind to the fact that it might not work so you aren't crushed if that really does happen. If you really are meant to be, it'll happen. I just try to trust that everything happens for a reason and it can only get better from here no matter what happens. One of the most frustrating things for me was not knowing what was going to happen next. Since I made the decision not to talk to him I do have somewhat of a weight lifted off my shoulders. It hurts a lot but you have to do what's right for you. Let me know if I can help. No one I talk to really knows how this feels so it'd be nice to talk to someone who gets it.

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I know how that feels I'm in the same boat right now. It's hard to let go because we love them. So we hold on to whatever hope there is left. It's not fair for us though. Even if does hurt we deserve someone who will love us unconditionally. He's my best friend and I feel that's why it's harder to let go because once he's gone I won't have anyone to talk to. I know some time has passed since you've posted. How are you doing? If you need someone to talk to feel free to message me. 😊

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If you broke up, Of encourage a clean, no contact breakup. It may be harder initially, but it is so much healthier. Specially as he sounds like he is trying to keep a tie. That's selfish of him and I feel those situations become emotionally abusive. He either wants to be with you and DOES 100% or he is just using you. Wish I'd known that lesson years ago.

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I know exactly what you're going through. Reading this, I felt like I was reading my own story. I was with the guy 6 years. He broke up with me before but we always got back together. I moved away for me but I waited 9 months for him (it's been a year) and decided it was time to let go, I began healing myself. Up until two weeks ago he still asked to see me when I went home to visit. I had already started seeing someone so I said no. Three days later he got into a relationship. But honestly, not seeing him was the best thing I could've done. He showed me his true colors time and time again but I didn't listen because I loved him. I'll always care for him because although I miscarried years ago, he and I created life so he'll always be a part of me. Not gonna lie, I cried a lot and like every day. But I honestly believe if it's meant to be, it'll be. Listen to your heart.

Break up after 7 1/2 years REALLY?!

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