I like being abused?

I'm anon because I'm ashamed of how I am. Don't think that I like being punched and beat up because that's not the case. I like when my boyfriend verbally abuses me, I like when he calls me a slut, and a whore (even though I'm not) and a bitch, worthless etc....especially during sex. I also like when he chokes me and spits on me and slaps me during sex. Even outside of the bedroom if we get into an argument he calls me names and slaps me pretty hard and spits on me and I just get turned on, yes I do cry but I'm also horny at the same time?? It's so weird I don't even know how this started or where it came from. I'm ashamed of it and I don't want any hate from it 😔. It's not like "you just like kinky sex" because I like it outside of the bedroom too. I don't like to be beat up, my man would never beat me up or do anything that causes a lot of pain. I've been in a abusive relationship before where my ex boyfriend punched me and beat me down on the ground and I left him. I'm 19 and I live with my parents so I can't really go to therapy or anything like that because I don't want to tell my parents, and also I don't really want to go or feel like I need to. Does anyone know why I'm like this?  P.S I don't think I have/had any problems or traumatic experiences in my life or with my family to make me like this. I was never sexually abused or anything like that. Me and my dad aren't really close...he lives with me but we just don't talk to each other much and he has anger problems which scares me at times. 
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An

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You lost me at being spit on and slapped and being called a slut and a whore. That's a bit much I think. Something else is going on with you. There has to be an underlying issue going on with you.

li

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Masochism: the tendency to derive pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from ones own pain or humiliation. Please keep in mind that masochism can go much further than “just” the sexual aspect. It is a spectrum that includes the handling of extreme emotions, both the positive and the negative. From what I know, there's no reason to seek psychological help unless you are putting yourself or someone else in true danger. You say your so would never actually harm you so I think it's okay. Are you happy? Do you feel safe? Are you posting because you want to change this behavior? Or to see if it's okay? I don't think anything is wrong with you. 

Ms

MsD💋 • Jun 15, 2017
Oh goodness lol!!😂😂😂 I'll look into it right now. Thank you for being so understanding ☺️

li

li • Jun 15, 2017
That's the INSANE link 😂😭

li

li • Jun 15, 2017
https://books.google.com/books?id=jgT1F7E9sfUC&pg;=PT29&lpg;=PT29&dq;=masochism+spectrum+nonsexual&source;=bl&ots;=d2sZGia8of&sig;=nA1sju-18DTWAH04dZ-1Jytd6CQ&hl;=en&sa;=X&ved;=0ahUKEwiBzJG58L7UAhUWzGMKHa_XCsUQ6AEIHTAA#v=onepage&q;=masochism%20spectrum%20nonsexual&f;=false

Br

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I think you're just kinky! & there's seriously NOTHING wrong with that!! As long as everything your partner does to you, you completely enjoy & are ok with & even get off on.. then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. As long as it's not against your will also. Being kinky & having unusual turn ons isn't something to be ashamed of either. I'm the exact same way. Everything you just said (minus the stuff in public, I like to keep it inside the bedroom) is me to a T. I've been this way since I was 16 & I'm 31 now & I've not had any sexual trauma happen to me as a child. Do you!! & never be embarrassed or ashamed of what you like.😆

Ca

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Where you sexually abused as a child? If yes you need to see a therapist specialist in this area or either way you need to see one cause it's more of a self steem problem good luck.. 

Kr

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I think there's many many people like yourself they just don't say it out loud..