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I am 14 and just asked how do I give a hand job on a post and someone replied with that has me stunned that someone gave your an answer and guide you should be focusing on school and grades. I have never had a boyfriend or kissed a guy but I think I have a high sex drive. I feel guilty for thinking about all this and looking up things like that and wondering things like what is cum? I also feel guilty and dirty for wanting to look up porn.

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At that age, being interested in that stuff is 100% normal.

Actually ACTING on it is what's the problem. Middle/high school age brings a TON of changes into your life, be they physical, emotional, whatever. It's normal to feel a little crazy.

What's important to remember is that temptation is not a sin--acting on temptation is wrong. Especially sexual acts with another person--it's illegal at your age for a reason. It takes some growing up to be able to deal with the consequences of sex.

I guess my points are that 1) no, you're not weird or terrible, but 2) only you can control your actions, and it's still your responsibility to make good choices. Your hormones will even out, I promise!

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you can focus on school and research sex and learn about yourself. 14 is an important age to discover yourself and your body. Just go and do what you're comfortable with and just don't rush into anything. Your curiosity is completely normal and valid!

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Do NOT feel guilty or bad at all for being curious! I was curious like this starting at 12 years old, and tbh I was kind of guilty about it too. But I didn't need to be, and neither do you! It's much better to know what you are doing and be prepared so that if you get into any situations during the next few years you can feel comfortable. Don't do anything you are not ready for and don't put yourself out there just yet. But wondering and asking questions is not a bad thing.

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We all did it. It's normal to ask questions. But I'm sure if you took sex Ed (8th grade) you should know what cum is. Don't feel dirty we all had/have questions

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Hi! So I was on your other post and I'm hopping over here. Hand jobs are normal thing to be curious about! So is all that other stuff!

Handjobs are really easy. Wrap your hand, go up an down, okay with the head etc. Use lube or lotion. Eventually the guy gets to the point of orgasm, which is when he cums, releasing semen, which holds sperm.

Now, as for the high sex drive, masturbation is perfectly normal, harmless and healthy! I personally would not involve porn. You will get a distorted and perverted view of what sex is. Look up the website fightthenewdrug and learn about how harmful porn can be.

If I were you, I'd buy a book, or rent one from a library that tells you all about sex! There are healthy ones who tell you honest things.

Sex is normal, and as long as you use condoms and birth control, it's safe. Do not have unprotected sex. Even if you are a man's only sexual partner, until you're ready for kids, always use condoms. Don't give a blow job unless you know 100% this person has never had any sexual partners. There are oral STDS.

Don't ever let a guy go in without a condom on. Never. Ever.

Everyone reaches climax differently. Explore yourself before you let someone else.

If you're not wet, use lube.

Don't ever be pressured into anything you don't want to do. Especially anal sex. It can cause incontinence.

Again, do not watch porn for any type of sex advice. None of that is realistic. And it objectifies women. Again, find a book and read. There is so much to learn.

Also, not every woman bleeds the first time she has sex. Sex for the first time might be uncomfortable, but if it hurts, he's doing something wrong or you aren't wet enough. The hymen breaking is a myth. It's just a part of the vagina. Not something that can be broken. Just stretched or torn a little.

Read a book or find safe online guides to sex anatomy and self exploration.

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I'm glad someone answered your question 😔 being curious isn't bad and that lady's reaction was uncalled for. There is nothing degrading about being curious OR sexually active. You just wanted to know. That's what this forum is for: information. Some people don't seem to get that.

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Girl, do not feel guilty. Your body is at the stage to where it's going to start getting curious. I didn't have my first kiss till I was 14. Then lost my verginity at 15. Now I'm 16 with a baby. I didn't do the best job controlling my cravings but that's me. But what I'm getting at, is that it's normal. Honestly I learned so much from porn. And it always got me so worked up. I don't get as excited from it anymore so I don't really watch it as much as I used to. But I seen that comment, "focus on school" but it's like we all get curious and all have sex in our life. It's nature, and natural and normal. I think that was crazy but I bet she's one of them overly protective moms. Lol. But don't forget please please please. It's all normal and your body's natural way of "growing up"

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Well you should be focusing on school...

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