monster in law

I don't like her lifestyle. I don't like her choices. Her personality and mine have clashed since the beginning of our relationship and I have gone above and beyond to be polite and courteous to her, regardless of how shitty she has treated me. I was not raised to be rude or short with my elders, but she's reaaaaally pushing it this time.

She has recently had her "walk back in" episode and decided to play the mom role with my husband again, pretending everything is fine and she cares and she's #1 mom. Except this time, she is forcing herself into my life as well and bombarding me with everything about my pregnancy, including pushing her body insecurities onto me and constantly giving me unsolicited advice. She then stated that being in my life and being in my future child's life is "her right" and she "deserved" to be in it. Absolutely not. It is a privilege. A complete and utter privilege. Specially for with how she acts, and starting with that sense of entitlement. If it were ultimately up to me, I would be fine with never seeing her or hearing from her again. My child does not need someone so toxic and narcissistic in their life either. Specially as their grandmother of all roles. 

How do I pass this message along to her? How do I make it clear to her that she does not "deserve" a space in my life or my child's life because of how she is?