I don't think my husband respects me

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and I guess it's more apparent now than it was before but I don't think he respects me. Granted we are young in our early 20's. What I mean is that if I ask him to do the dishes or something, he only does half because "there was not enough room" or after we have sex or before I'll ask him to finger me so I can finish (we all know it's rare for it to happen during sex) and he will straight up say "No" or just ignore my trying.

It really makes me upset because I do so much for him and he can't even do that for me. I have never told him no for the plain and simple fact I like to make my man happy.

What do you think I should do or say? It seems every time I try to talk to him about it he just sits there silently like I'm lecturing him.