Did he enjoy?

So I met with a guy I've known since like elementary. We smoked. A lot. Then things bgan to heat. I didn't give a bj because I don't really know how too and I didn't want to embarrass myself. Anyway, he ended up shoving his hand up my vag and I gave him a half ass hj. He hasn't talked to me since that day and I'm just like idk. Like I wanna go actually have sex with him. I think we didn't cuz he didn't have condoms that. But anyway, I wanna ask him if he's up for it again or not. And if a guy enjoys the time he spent with u will he always message first or what?