need advice please (sorry it this is long)

ok so I want to have a wedding but m OH wants to elope as there will be so much stress and drama trying to plan a wedding his mum will be all like well you must invite this person and this person must come and if they don't come I will not go to the wedding then I will have my sister who is not married or very planed a wedding will tell me what I should be doing and what I can't wear. then on the hen Night (bridle party I think it's called in the us) she will have planned this and she dose not know what I like at all and she will be a bitch as she dose not like the same people I like. I don't know what to do I am think eloping is the best think to do but at the same time I want to have a wedding g and have my big brother give me away we lost our dad and I know it would mean a lot to him to give me away. I hate this so much. help any advice would be good I am just so stuck on what to do. thank you if you made it this far. xx