Crying it out!!! Am I the only one?

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So a friend of mine posted on Facebook what to do about her son wanting to be held 24/7 and she can't get anything done so she has been letting him do the "cry it out" method. He's only 1 month old. She posted asking what to do to help. I commented saying it's not suggested to let newborns cry it out due to stress and I included an informative article, and some helpful mom tips I used with my son. Well sooooo many people commented saying they let their kids cry for more than 30 MINUTES and talked about how they were fine and I was wrong for including the article that it meant nothing! I didn't mean to offend anyone but to me it's scary and crazy to let that young of a baby cry themselves to sleep! Am I wrong?

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No, absolutely not. It's an awful thing to do. Ferber himself says he never intended woman to CIO in his name for such young babies and so young. He doesn't recommend controlled crying until 6 months minimum when baby is showing signs of readiness. CIO at one month old is disgusting honestly. Why bother having a child at all if you are just going to abandon him and ignore his cries. That bullshit. ALL newborns want to eat 24/7 and be held 24/7. This is normal. They used to be fed and held 24/7 in utero. 12 hours a day would feel like a huge cutback. Buy a damn moby wrap and woman up. Welcome to motherhood. 
OP I think you showed a lot more tact than I could have. I'm a mother of 3 boys and I find this infuriating

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People hate being told they are wrong and they hate it even more when it can be backed up with credible sources. 
It's not your fault they don't like being told the truth.

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Young babies instinctively know that being left alone = death, I'd never let a baby cry until it gives up, assuming nobody cares (or from exhaustion). The answer is babywearing 😀 For the first two months of life my baby demanded breastfeeding every five minutes...there were times I thought I wouldn't make it. ut I'm so glad I persisted. i now have a big, healthy, happy baby who's learning things so fast! And learning to breastfeed in the sling has made us very mobile 😂

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Oh hell no...if you have to let your baby cry because you feel you are going to put them in danger and need to exit the room that's one thing...but to let them cry because you need to get stuff done...nope...it seriously sucks having a needy baby, but that is far too young to allow that. I think you were in the right, and the article was probably a nice thing to include.

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I wouldn't be comfortable letting a child that young cry.  A month isn't long enough to learn their cues and to understand their different cries. At 6 months + most parents have a fair understanding of when their child is crying for attention.

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There's so many conflicting studies on whether it hurts a child or not but why risk it imo? The sound of my baby screaming tears me apart no way could I do it. I want my baby to know he can always count on me to comfort him and he needs to learn if young.

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I didn't do the cry it out until about 6 months or so. There were a few times when I let my daughter cry for a bit before then (maybe 2 months) just to see if she could calm herself. When she didn't, I stopped.

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That's disgusting, I'm sorry. That is a NEWBORN. Babies cry, babies don't let you sleep, babies want to be held. If you can't be bothered to take care of your child, why the hell would you have one? I will never understand why people expect little babies to act much older than they are and have schedules that are convenient to them. That makes me so angry. My son is almost one and I still don't let him cry if I can avoid it. I can't imagine leaving him to scream alone for half an hour at a month old. You're a better person than me, I would've ripped her a new one.

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A 1 month old should NOT be crying it out! These people are selfish & deluded! Letting your baby cry for 5-10 minutes so u can shower or get good is one thing but letting them cry while u do housework or other things is ridiculous. She needs to buy a baby carrier or sling so her baby can be w/ her while she does stuff. You can find them used for a good price, that's what I did. I wear my baby so I can take care of my big kids & house & he doesn't cry.

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Oh no no no you absolutely do not ever allow a 1 month old baby just cry it out they cry for a reason they need mommies comfort they just spent 9 months inside of one place the world hey now are in is completely different they do not know any better

Crying it out!!! Am I the only one?

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