Autoimmune mama's? I'm undifferentiated/ suspected Lupus

hey mama's . I was diagnosed in the past year after getting sick for nearly 3 months straight. I have two little loves and one on the way. I'm A negative as well . both Littles were high risk so lots of extra Dr's appoints . usually no real danger until I had my second and got blatantly ignored. there was less than 1cm of fluid in the amniotic sacrifice at 38 was 5days and I had been in pain when baby moved since about 5months along. by the time I couldn't take it anymore I wasn't allowed to leave the hospital and when baby was born the placenta was spent it looked like jerky. the baby had been taking every bit of nutrients from me it could . buy was healthy and is 3 now. they had to induce and it was awful. they said you'll start feeling this in about 2hrs so rest. 30 min later I was having very strong contractions. I fear it happening again but try not to think about it. During all of this my Husband was deployed to Afghanistan . at 5months when I had told my Dr I was hurting she told me I was just anxious because my Husband was deployed?! He had been gone before so I knew better but just convinced myself maybe I was. The dr she worked with was the one that made me come to the hospital because he was on call. He was so upset when he realized she hadn't done an ultrasound since 20wks even when I had told her I was hurting and requested an ultrasound. later their practice split up I'm sure due to multiple other issues. My Dr this go around is very cautious and has requested a second specialist to follow along in my pregnancy just to make sure nothing is missed. still fearfully but feeling much more cared for this go.